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Lacetone 40F
410 posts
3/10/2007 4:13 pm

Last Read:
9/30/2010 8:20 am

HAPPINESS

Sharing an email received from Fraz when he went to London to be with his dad who was sick at that time.
I LOVE YOU Babe!


After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet curtains that had been hung on her window.

"I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

"Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room .... just wait."
"That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied.


"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged... it's how I arrange my mind.

"I already decided to love it ... It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.

"Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away ... just for this time in my life.

"Old age is like a bank account--you withdraw from it what you've put in."

So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories.



CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 9:52 pm

Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged... it's how I arrange my mind.
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To be happy We have to truly enjoy the opportunities and blessings that the modern world has to offer.


LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 9:54 pm

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Discover and embrace the things in life that are valuable and worthwhile.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 9:55 pm

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Our lives are shaped by the decisions we make every day about our personal behavior-

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 9:58 pm

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Making the right decisions and choices enable us to lead better, fuller, more satisfying lives.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:00 pm

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You have the power inside. Program your thoughts to be happy!

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:02 pm

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Lace makes me happy. I love you Lace!

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:05 pm

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Life is full of ups and downs. In order to experience happiness you must experience other emotions, including sadness and anger, to some degree nearly every day. The ideal you should work towards is to manage what you have and who you are, to enjoy life whenever possible and to feel happy most of the time.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:07 pm

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Make someone else's day happier. It may sound a bit corny, but why not? Start by suppressing the urge to blast your horn at the slow driver ahead. Or you could make a positive move by volunteering your time for a charity.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:09 pm

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Go to the beach. The long views, the wind, the waves, bare feet in the sand, sun on the back -there is nothing so good for the soul. (My friend, Parviz is renewed and invigorated in the same way by a walk on a hill. To each his own.)

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:12 pm

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Play is fun; it keeps your mind away from worrying.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:14 pm

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Keep a journal. Write an ongoing list of the good things that happen to you every day. What was that lovely thing your partner said to you the other day? You will not remember unless you write it down. Problems can be solved and bad things cleared from your thoughts by writing them down, too. Try it - it works!

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:15 pm

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Don't let the small stuff bug you. Wasting your energy by getting upset about life's many minor irritations is not worth it. Smile and wave to the driver who won't let you merge into his lane. He's rude and aggressive, and it's his problem. You've missed the train? Fretting is pointless - the train is gone. Enjoy the coffee while you wait for the next one.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:17 pm

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Have a big clean out and divest yourself of useless "stuff." Clothes unworn for a year, the dinner service that you've always hated, kitchen utensils that are always in the way but never used, unused linen (you still have cot linen on the shelf and the "baby" is six!), toys, books, furniture - give it all to a charity and you will have helped the poor. The bonus is that your shelves and cupboards are clutter-free now. Housework is easier, your vision is clearer and the feng shui of your home is improved.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:19 pm

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Smile. Smiling is contagious - try it and see.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:21 pm

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Don't try to keep up with others. So, your neighbors have a larger home, the latest stereo system, a new car - who cares? Look again. He works on the weekends, and they never seem to see friends. Who's better of, really?

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


fraz2000 45M
348 posts
3/11/2007 10:23 pm

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Give yourself something to look forward to. Book a holiday, a night out, a massage.

LaCE ... LOVE and CARE EVERYDAY


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:01 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged... it's how I arrange my mind.
    --------------------------------------

    To be happy We have to truly enjoy the opportunities and blessings that the modern world has to offer.
Happiness needs to be earned, worked at and appreciated.

Just remember you have no real reason to be unhappy - keep life basically trouble-free. - Keep these thoughts to help you remember that life is good.


Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:03 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Discover and embrace the things in life that are valuable and worthwhile.
Change your thinking. Live everyday as if it is your last. People who have survived a terminal illness or accident, witnessed a tragedy or lost a loved one are said to have a different perspective on life. Many will say that they no longer leave anything until later. They travel, learn a new skill, contact a friend now. They know - and we should all remember - that there might not be a later.

Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:04 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Our lives are shaped by the decisions we make every day about our personal behavior-
Get some perspective on things. Think about how you would like to be remembered and what you might tell your grandchildren about your life. Is it really that important that the linen is changed weekly and the floors are kept spotlessly clean? That work meeting last year that meant you missed your child's school concert - does it matter now?

Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:10 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Making the right decisions and choices enable us to lead better, fuller, more satisfying lives.
Do any unpleasant or difficult chores that need doing. Do them now. Procrastination drains your energy and burdens your mind. If you are thinking and worrying about something that needs to be done, you might as well be doing it.

Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:13 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Lace makes me happy. I love you Lace!
I am so happy for you both Lace and Fraz. Keep the lovelight burning!

Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:15 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Make someone else's day happier. It may sound a bit corny, but why not? Start by suppressing the urge to blast your horn at the slow driver ahead. Or you could make a positive move by volunteering your time for a charity.
Change your routine. Life can begin to stem like a bit of a chore if we do the same thing day after day, week after week. We need to create interest in our lives, and to do new things. If you normally sleep in on a Sunday, the "sleep in" is no longer a treat. Why not get up early and have breakfast in the park? You'll beat the crowds and be heading home as they arrive. The day will seem much longer. (Or, for those who never sleep in, arrange it somehow - what a luxury it is!)

Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:16 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Go to the beach. The long views, the wind, the waves, bare feet in the sand, sun on the back -there is nothing so good for the soul. (My friend, Parviz is renewed and invigorated in the same way by a walk on a hill. To each his own.)
Learn to say no. You don't have to do it. Your life is already too busy and you are running from one thing to another. Give yourself some space to think and time to do something for yourself.

Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:18 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Don't let the small stuff bug you. Wasting your energy by getting upset about life's many minor irritations is not worth it. Smile and wave to the driver who won't let you merge into his lane. He's rude and aggressive, and it's his problem. You've missed the train? Fretting is pointless - the train is gone. Enjoy the coffee while you wait for the next one.
Remember to love your partner for who he or she is. Have they really changed so much? Or (think about it!) might he/she actually be the same person that you fell in love with? The relationship might need some work - everything needs some repair work or maintenance after a few years of running - but the parts should still be in working order.

Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.


pax506 67F
958 posts
3/11/2007 11:19 pm

    Quoting fraz2000:
    Smile. Smiling is contagious - try it and see.
Don't let familiarity breed contempt. Your partner and family deserve at least the same consideration you give your friends. And you deserve the same from them.

Above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard.