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How far would u test your belief in relationships? This post is only viewable by Filipino FriendFinder members. Join Filipino FriendFinder now!    within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time. |
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a relationship will always be tested, whether we will it or not  about the swingers, i don't wanna judge them and their preferences... not my cup of tea tho'  ...i used to chat with a man from Holland, married to a pinay from Cebu... that time, they have a teen-age dawter... i got interested to chat with him 'coz he admitted they were into "recreational" sex... he was not rude or lewd in chat, to him it was "matter-of-fact" thing... like what you described, they have some "rules"... like it was the other partner's choice who slept with the other... i asked him why they do that... he said some would not understand, but love is not part of it... he said it's pure sex...and that it shows the trust on the other... yeah, i can't understand trust expressed that way... but well, he said that's what kept them together... or else, they would have divorced long time ago... well, different strokes for different folks!... for me, not that i'm trying to be sweet and nice or anything but the call of my conscience is louder than the call of flesh... 
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6/3/2012 3:33 am |
But really, there are those "weirdos" who are OUT of what we call "normal"...They have their own different worlds, different tolerance, different everything! You better believe it, because somehow, so many things are happening which are not within our grasp.. Just call me ELZ 
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6/3/2012 3:34 am |
But really, there are those "weirdos" who are OUT of what we call "normal"...They have their own different worlds, different tolerance, different everything! You better believe it, because somehow, so many things are happening which are not within our grasp.. Just call me ELZ
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6/3/2012 5:01 am |
You remind me of one email I got some years ago. He told me in all he does, the wife has all the approval and she tolerates it and she has great understanding. He told me further that he never denied in his profile that he`s married. I was polite so I emailed him back and told that I am not interested, there`s a lot of single guys out there and I didn`t read his profile since I`m a standard member
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Janey, It's all around. Been in two. But, my conscience get the better of me. Because of love i will take the full blame. I've finally realise. If they they don't me they never will. They always choose the other woman beside me. Lesson learned. Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...
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6/5/2012 4:07 am |
Yes it's hard to imagine being in someone else's shoes when I haven't walked on theirs and wouldn't like to walk on theirs, i.e. I couldn't tolerate polygamy and don't see the point if there's no love. Even though it's suppose to be purely lustful and seksual, is there a small chance that the relationship could develop into something more? Hence why later one or both partners starts caring about the other showing signs of jealousy and maybe even regret that they've ventured this far. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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6/5/2012 4:16 am |
 Charlie, yes I'm laughing inappropriately, but can't help at blunt responses like yours.Ehmmm yes the more partners you have the higher the risk of getting STDs or STIs. But it isn't unheard of to have one partner infecting a virgin in his or her first go, because one of them has been sleeping around already. This in itself is enough to put me off getting into bed. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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6/5/2012 4:23 am |
a relationship will always be tested, whether we will it or not about the swingers, i don't wanna judge them and their preferences... not my cup of tea tho' ...i used to chat with a man from Holland, married to a pinay from Cebu... that time, they have a teen-age dawter... i got interested to chat with him 'coz he admitted they were into "recreational" sex... he was not rude or lewd in chat, to him it was "matter-of-fact" thing... like what you described, they have some "rules"... like it was the other partner's choice who slept with the other... i asked him why they do that... he said some would not understand, but love is not part of it... he said it's pure sex...and that it shows the trust on the other... yeah, i can't understand trust expressed that way... but well, he said that's what kept them together... or else, they would have divorced long time ago... well, different strokes for different folks!... for me, not that i'm trying to be sweet and nice or anything but the call of my conscience is louder than the call of flesh... So for their marriage to keep going he has to sleep around otherwise they'll divorce.....hmmmmmm Do you know if it's still working out for them??? I wonder if they use common sense and ask for certificates to check for STDs.  Good to hear your conscience is louder than the call of the flesh. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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6/5/2012 4:26 am |
But really, there are those "weirdos" who are OUT of what we call "normal"...They have their own different worlds, different tolerance, different everything! You better believe it, because somehow, so many things are happening which are not within our grasp.. It sure is beyond my grasp.  within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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6/5/2012 4:35 am |
You remind me of one email I got some years ago. He told me in all he does, the wife has all the approval and she tolerates it and she has great understanding. He told me further that he never denied in his profile that he`s married. I was polite so I emailed him back and told that I am not interested, there`s a lot of single guys out there and I didn`t read his profile since I`m a standard memberHmmmm I've got very amusing e-mails here in epep similar to yours, but no mention of wife approving or tolerating it. Even if I was single like today's e-mail, after reading them, I couldn't take them seriously as sometimes what they write are either so cheesy or way too crude at times ....eeekkk It also looks like a few e-mails are copy-pasted for many women. Some e-mails I could only see being blocked after a few days that I haven't logged on, so I didn't get the chance to read them. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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6/5/2012 4:47 am |
Janey, It's all around. Been in two. But, my conscience get the better of me. Because of love i will take the full blame. I've finally realise. If they they don't me they never will. They always choose the other woman beside me. Lesson learned. Avoid them if you can. Be upfront and ask him that no one else is involved. You don't want to have to share or be part of a tangled web if you can't tolerate it. Doesn't really give room for your love to grow and it might give you more than a heartache. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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6/5/2012 4:57 am |
Any luck with the lotto Shaq? If you haven't won yet, you might have won bingo. You gave the closest answer. Yes they're living separate lives in new relationships as their previous relationship with each other fell apart after 2 years. Neither could handle the idea of open relationship into practice anymore. They underestimated their feelings and emotions getting in the way. They were happier when it was simply just the 2 of them spending time with each other, but instead they got carried away with having other partners on the side. It no longer was a treat and instead the idea consumed them and left them as empty shells. The great thing is that it restored their preference for monogamous relationship. They're happier spending time with one partner only and as the man put it, he prefers "being on a leash", rather have no boundaries. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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6/5/2012 5:09 am |
They haven't openly discussed contracting STDs, but there's a high possibility sis loofie. Both of them got out of the relationship as they weren't successful with trying to fix it. Both became paranoid and no longer relished the idea that they were dating other people. She lost her self-confidence and weight. Underestimated her ability as a woman to take things personally. Started to compare herself to the other women he slept with based on their physical attractiveness. It was tough for her to admit that her idea went wrong. Lesson learned as 'te said. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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6/5/2012 5:11 am |
Counselling maybe and a health clinic. Rehab could be a long-term solution if their previous experience haunts them and catches up with them later. A sperm bank might be a healthier way to release the urge. thanks for your thoughts Smilerz along with the others.within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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Yes luv you're right relationships after some time will be tested at some point. So for their marriage to keep going he has to sleep around otherwise they'll divorce.....hmmmmmm Do you know if it's still working out for them??? I wonder if they use common sense and ask for certificates to check for STDs. Good to hear your conscience is louder than the call of the flesh. i didn't say that janey...i said BOTH of them are swingers... where the man chooses who sleeps with the wife...and the wife chooses who sleeps with the husband... they don't sleep with just anyone...they do it within their circle... with people they know, probably so that they can avoid STD's... it's not like they meet someone they like and they sleep with them... they might still be into it, because they were already together more than 15 years when i chatted with the man...
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6/11/2012 5:47 pm |
Ah thanks for clarifying Luv. Swinging is still popular from the 60's since the contraceptive was introduced. As long as they protect themselves and know each other somehow. Still I wouldn't take the chance, but if it makes them happy that's up to them to decide. 15 years is a long time in this day and age. Not bad at all. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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