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Blogs > oliveski > My Emotions....


oliveski 47F
162 posts
5/22/2008 9:50 pm

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7/16/2012 3:58 am
A Sincere "SORRY" is enough...
Most of the time we say a lot of things that makes a simple situation very complicated. Admittance of mistakes done and a "SINCERE SORRY" is all we need to hear to erase all that bad feeling we have for that person who intentionally or un-intentionally hurt us...But why is it so hard to do?
awful63 61F

5/23/2008 11:22 pm

 sistahhhhhhhhh... pride yan siguro or di na alam that he has to say sorry!
A healthy friendship changes and grows ‒ i.e. it is dynamic. How do we know if it is alive or not? It must be growing and changing constantly. A healthy friendship will encourage personal growth as well as allow both parties to explore safely with new ideas and experiences.


oliveski 47F
208 posts
5/24/2008 9:17 am
    Quoting  :
you got it mad it's that foolish men's pride...thanks for dropping by


oliveski 47F
208 posts
5/24/2008 9:36 am

 hi! tajane, thanks for gracing my blogs though am not that really active in blogging

yes, you are right with all that you said here...that person i was referring chose to pretend that he wasn't committed the mistake though i had caught him in the act...our situation was not really complicated if he did not lie...anyway, i guess he learned his lesson now...just this afternoon i received a call from him and he sincerely said "SORRY" and i accepted it...hehehe! now, we're OK again


oliveski 47F
208 posts
6/2/2008 9:25 am
    Quoting awful63:
    sistahhhhhhhhh... pride yan siguro or di na alam that he has to say sorry!
i don't know sis, he may also pretend of not doing anything offending...insensitive...haaayzzz!


oliveski 47F
208 posts
6/2/2008 9:29 am
    Quoting pinoynoy:
    these are the things ive learned in school.

    1) the "offender" didnt think there is something wrong with what he/she did so why would he/she admit committing a wrongful act. ONe "harmless" act from a person would be subject to different interpretation from others. Its best to tell the person "i was hurt by what you did or say so he/she can explain and trust that he/she is sincere with the explanation.

    2) the "offender" is on a payback mission. "you did this to me, i did this to you". without you knowing it was you who fist offended him/her. so best that you delay reaction and honestly ask yourself "did i do something that would solicit that kind of reaction from him/her?"

    3) Pride is the common culprit and it can expressed in so many ways:
    a) by being indifferent
    b) by becoming vindictive
    c) by blaming others except self and becoming self rigtheous.

    all words and actions are always subject to different interpretations so to prevent unnecessary stresses, pain, suffering psychologists and counselors prefer before jumping into any conclusion is to always ask the person "what do you mean by that?" or "i was hurt by your words can you explain why you said that or you did that?" and try to stick to the issue rather than being "historical"

    questions and comments are welcome ask me i will answer to the best of my knowledge and ability.

    for counseling help feel free to contact me. this is a public service.
gleng gleng talaga ng lolo ko ... but what you have stated here are all correct...you've just cited every facets of possible situation...thanks for posting lolo...wala ako masabi




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