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THE BROKENHEARTED: Which one are you? I'm sure, more than 90% of us, members of FFF, have our hearts broken maybe once, twice, or even more. There will be aftermaths of those painful experiences...I'd like to know how honestly you can relate yourself to the ff: 1. DOORS CLOSED (by choice): You just don't feel that you'll ever want to be in a relationship again. You've closed that door and let the opportunities to be happy again came by w/o really giving it a chance. 2. DOORS WIDELY OPEN (too soon): Your attitude is such that "easy come, easy go, easy to replace...no time is wasted." Life is short, might as well enjoy and have fun and never, ever look back..(Geesh! I wish I have that kind of attitude) 3. DOORS HALFWAY OPEN: Yes,..No,...Maybe,...So,...Maybe I should, but no, I can't do it now, maybe later...Stop and Go kinda or Green and Red type of signals...In short, you just couldn't make up your mind.. 4. SELF-BLAME: You think and rethink that your past love failed mainly because of you, and you just can't get over that feeling? 5. S/HE IS TO BLAME: It was her/his fault,...never yours,...Sadly, you can't get over that too! 6. PUNITIVE: S/He hurt you so bad, you feel not only punishing her/him, but the next person/s who'd fall in love with you. Now, THIS IS REALLY UNFAIR! Just because somebody hurt you, doesn't mean you'll hurt innocent people in return.. You're not only depriving yourself to be happy again, but you're also denying the next person the chance to prove to you that s/he is different. 7. RISK TAKER: You'll go to all extent just to fall in love and be happy again, no matter what it takes you to get there. 8. GUILTY: You can't be in a relationship right now or anytime soon until your (from former relationship/s) give you the go-signal or when they are done in school...(whooaaahhh! at some point I felt this way too!) AND MANY MORE reasons...Please tell me, where do you fit in?  Just call me ELZ  |
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1/14/2007 1:59 pm |
I will choose one for now...trust is a very strong word, but easily broken. So, it's so hard to trust again.
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1/14/2007 3:11 pm |
I have a seven-year-old son who's very dear to me so there's no way I can let a broken heart rule my world and forsake the very best thing in life that ever happened to me. Although I still love my ex-girlfriend, my conviction is to give my boy what he deserves, and that's a hundred per cnet love, attention and care from me.
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1/14/2007 3:41 pm |
Marion, sweetheart! I understand...I truly understand how you feel. But then again, trust is something that we really need to do in order for us to find success in any given relationship..Sometimes, the main problem is: We don't even trust ourselves on how good we are in trusting others...We do make mistakes, and they are there with us, and we keep on saying that we do not want to make the same mistakes again, but....It becomes a wishful thinking... I hope that you are in the pink of health, my dear..Good to see you again... Just call me ELZ
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1/14/2007 4:55 pm |
I have a seven-year-old son who's very dear to me so there's no way I can let a broken heart rule my world and forsake the very best thing in life that ever happened to me. Although I still love my ex-girlfriend, my conviction is to give my boy what he deserves, and that's a hundred per cnet love, attention and care from me. When our kids are still young and could not tend for themselves, nothing matters to us other than them, but if you have a 22 y.o. son (my only child) who is almost done with college, I kinda think things over...He will soon have his own life, and I will be left alone in the cold....AGAIN... Just call me ELZ
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1/14/2007 5:47 pm |
Now, I'm pouring everything I have, if it's not gonna work out, no more lovin for me.
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1/14/2007 7:24 pm |
Now, I'm pouring everything I have, if it's not gonna work out, no more lovin for me. Just call me ELZ
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1/15/2007 1:03 am |
Marion, sweetheart! I understand...I truly understand how you feel. But then again, trust is something that we really need to do in order for us to find success in any given relationship..Sometimes, the main problem is: We don't even trust ourselves on how good we are in trusting others...We do make mistakes, and they are there with us, and we keep on saying that we do not want to make the same mistakes again, but....It becomes a wishful thinking... I hope that you are in the pink of health, my dear..Good to see you again...
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1/15/2007 3:08 am |
Am good, hon, pretty good. Just busy working on my manuscript, updating chapters and working on my fictions, coz my writing team is pretty brutal when it comes to updates, hehe, they said they will skin me alive if I don't produce the updated chapter soon, hahaha! But it's fun, I got great reviews. Thank you, will be going to Texas probably by the end of the year, when everything is settled, gonna visit some friends over there, mc callen(?), will give you a ring when am in town. love you! Just call me ELZ
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1/15/2007 11:53 am |
First of all, thank you for posting!..My name is Elsa, and I don't hide my name (for what?)... Good to know that you are opening your doors even if it's halfway...better than closed...I admire men who accept fault like you, and I do hope that you'll do better next time... Your last question...the answer is NO! Being in a relationship with someone special is not the only way to be happy...YOU CAN BE HAPPY HERE WITH US...(WINKS) BUT IT IS BETTER TO LOVE AGAIN...DO YOU WANT TO READ MY THREAD AT PASSION, LOVE AND FORGIVENESS GROUP ENtitLED: LET YOUR HEART SPEAK AND BE HEARD...OR MIGHT AS WELL, IF YOU ARE INTO POSTING...YOU ARE INVITED TO JOIN OUR GROUP...YOU WON'T REGRET IT.. Just call me ELZ
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No. 3. When I got divorced, I couldn't get myself to date anyoen. My ex-husband of 30 years is 6'2, athletic-build (he is a high school basketball coach_ and looks like Magnum, P.I. (Tom Selleck) or most recently, an Eddie Gutierrez look-alike! So, I kept on thinking! I had to to find someone much better than my ex to throw at his face  It's all right. I'm okay now. I don't think that way anymore  When it comes right down to it, love, faithfulness and trust still are the most important thing in a relationship. I just haven't been that lucky yet to find the love of my life....but I'm not in a hurry. I know God has someone good for me out there! ....somewhere...sometime
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1/15/2007 8:35 pm |
Cher, I empathize with you...I have been in a situation wherein I was very vulnerable and was surrounded by men who were ready to devour me anytime, just because I was empty and wasn't sure if I wanted to be in a relationship again..Those men wanted to make the decision for me, making promises left and right...Some of them were really tempting, but then, of course, my heart was also half dead (or was it really dead for sometime)...my personal comfort and desire for worldly convenience wasn't my priority at all. My EX had everything I could hope for, looks,money, brain, wholesomeness and many more...Except...that we belong to two different worlds...I am a human being too...It was so hard for me to settle for anyone less, or probably, I was staring blankly at those men...couldn't see what good there were in front of me...I was "selective" in almost everything (memory, etc.) I must have missed too many opportunities just because I allowed it to happen. I know that I am not ugly..People who know me well think I am beautiful inside (not striking outside)...It probably took me a long time to embrace the romantic world again...And now, I am ready...still, 50-50 in my decision...not all heart, not all brain.. Thanks for sharing, sweet friend...You are a jewel to keep.. ELSA Just call me ELZ
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1/16/2007 9:41 am |
Thank you for the introduction Robert...I appreciate it. As to your question: I'd say, YOU ARE BOTH! Doors halway open and being picky! I respect that...you are entitled to be just like that for now...For as long as your doors are not tightly closed..You are leaving some space for someone to come in to your life.. Take care! Just call me ELZ
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1/16/2007 9:43 am |
Please accept my apology Robert...yes, you are right! You are even a part of my network...You did not introduce your name then...Now, I know...Goodluck to you! Just call me ELZ
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1/16/2007 11:11 am |
OIIISSSSSTTT! One at a time Only!...WELL  ...Owwssss! Maybe 2-3, BUT DEFINITELY...NOT ALL OF THE ABOVE!Thanks for visiting! Just call me ELZ
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1/17/2007 8:44 am |
i have the same answer with Jeff Pangga hehehehehe----- A healthy friendship changes and grows ‒ i.e. it is dynamic. How do we know if it is alive or not? It must be growing and changing constantly. A healthy friendship will encourage personal growth as well as allow both parties to explore safely with new ideas and experiences.
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