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IS THERE REALLY SUCH A THING AS.......(?) COME ON, LET'S FACE IT!..MOST OF US HAVE BEEN WOUNDED, MAYBE ONCE, TWICE, OR EVER MORE...AND BECAUSE OF THAT, WE TEND TO IGNORE OR PUT OFF OPPORTUNITIES TO BE IN LOVE AGAIN...WHY?... OUR EXCUSES ARE ALWAYS ONE OR TWO OR ALL OF THE FOLLOWING: 1. WE DO NOT WANT TO GET HURT AGAIN What is the guarantee that the next one is not gonna hurt? 2. WE WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT When, exactly is the right moment? And who determines it? You? the other person? or just leave it to destiny? 3. WE WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON Again, how are we going to find out if the person is just right, if we do not give that person a chance in the first place?..Just because we have loved and lost the previous object of our intense emotions (that lasted even more than 25 years) doesn't mean or guarantee that the next person is gonna last forever...uhhh? 4. WE DO NOT WANT TO EXPERIENCE THE SAME ORDEAL AGAIN...That is not fair to ourselves and to others who could be even better than whoever we had in the past. 5. OUR LOVED ONES (SPECIALLY, IF WE HAVE OR IF THE OTHER PERSON HAVE ) ARE AGAINST US, BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP AGAIN.. Well, this one, we may have to do some good explanations to our loved ones...It's not easy to do this, but hey!...we can all have our piece of cake and eat it too!..Why do we always think that just because we are in a relationship, WE ARE GOING TO GET MARRIED OR GET HITCHED AGAIN?...We don't have to..Like I always tell my friends: "IF YOU ARE IN LOVE, GO FOR IT!...BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO LEGALIZE YOUR HEADACHES!"...makes sense? 6. FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN Yeah, actually, it's more of this thing, or fear of failing again...Well, let me give you a precise example which we may all associate with. Think about a BULIMIC person.He or she (mostly female) has a constant craving for food (specially the very good and tasty food) and binges...And then, he/she feels guilty thereafter, induces emesis or purges (pretty subtle terms right?)...Bottomline?...At least, that person made the decision to gratify or satisfy his/her cravings...and then later on, decided as well, whether to digest it or not...What an illustration! There's a lot more to STOP us from being romantically happy again...But most of the time, the problem lies within ourselves...there's just too many excuses...We always look at the past relationship being worse (occasionally, the best)and most of the time, we put the blame on the other person, but you know what?...HAVE WE EVER LOOKED AT OUR OWN FAULTS TOO? AND ARE WE WILLING TO CORRECT PREVIOUS MISTAKES, MAYBE THIS TIME, FOR THE NEXT PERSON? We always claim that we had MOVED ON...After all of the above?. REALLY?  Just call me ELZ  |
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1/11/2007 10:42 am |
I understand your situation Shine! You're still very fresh...It may be too early for you...that is evident...but life goes on, girl, okay? Just call me ELZ
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Sis, nice blog 1. WE DO NOT WANT TO GET HURT AGAIN What is the guarantee that the next one is not gonna hurt?>>>Food for thought...hhm mm.....you're right! No guarantees!  2. WE WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT When, exactly is the right moment? And who determines it? You? the other person? or just leave it to destiny?>>>This is what I thought I'd do - leave it to destiny  But what's that saying? Nasa Dios ang awa, nasa tao ang gawa? 3. WE WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON Again, how are we going to find out if the person is just right, if we do not give that person a chance in the first place?..Just because we have loved and lost the previous object of our intense emotions (that lasted even more than 25 years) doesn't mean or guarantee that the next person is gonna last forever...uhhh?>>>Very wise, indeed, sis! So we must open our doors to all opportunites and find out what's behind those doors 4. WE DO NOT WANT TO EXPERIENCE THE SAME ORDEAL AGAIN...That is not fair to ourselves and to others who could be even better than whoever we had in the past.>>>Wow! True! The next one could definitely be better! Why do we always think that just because we are in a relationship, WE ARE GOING TO GET MARRIED OR GET HITCHED AGAIN?...We don't have to..Like I always tell my friends: "IF YOU ARE IN LOVE, GO FOR IT!...BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO LEGALIZE YOUR HEADACHES!"...makes sense?>>>Hmmm...sis, you hae a point here! maybe I should change my perspective on this one  Thank you for sharing, sis!
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1/11/2007 3:22 pm |
heheheehee all the best to you my pangga! love you! A healthy friendship changes and grows ‒ i.e. it is dynamic. How do we know if it is alive or not? It must be growing and changing constantly. A healthy friendship will encourage personal growth as well as allow both parties to explore safely with new ideas and experiences.
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1/11/2007 6:04 pm |
Sis, nice blog 1. WE DO NOT WANT TO GET HURT AGAIN What is the guarantee that the next one is not gonna hurt?>>>Food for thought...hhm mm.....you're right! No guarantees! 2. WE WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT When, exactly is the right moment? And who determines it? You? the other person? or just leave it to destiny?>>>This is what I thought I'd do - leave it to destiny But what's that saying? Nasa Dios ang awa, nasa tao ang gawa? 3. WE WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON Again, how are we going to find out if the person is just right, if we do not give that person a chance in the first place?..Just because we have loved and lost the previous object of our intense emotions (that lasted even more than 25 years) doesn't mean or guarantee that the next person is gonna last forever...uhhh?>>>Very wise, indeed, sis! So we must open our doors to all opportunites and find out what's behind those doors 4. WE DO NOT WANT TO EXPERIENCE THE SAME ORDEAL AGAIN...That is not fair to ourselves and to others who could be even better than whoever we had in the past.>>>Wow! True! The next one could definitely be better! Why do we always think that just because we are in a relationship, WE ARE GOING TO GET MARRIED OR GET HITCHED AGAIN?...We don't have to..Like I always tell my friends: "IF YOU ARE IN LOVE, GO FOR IT!...BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO LEGALIZE YOUR HEADACHES!"...makes sense?>>>Hmmm...sis, you hae a point here! maybe I should change my perspective on this one Thank you for sharing, sis! Are you back here in the states? I'd love to see you or visit you and or vice-versa..We would like to invite you to join us at PASSION, LOVE, AND FORGIVENESS Group...PLEASE?...We are a group of mostly highly educated, decent, professionals and of course, goodlooking (winks)..We'd love to have someone of high caliber like you...So, come and join us...You will be welcomed with a banner Just call me ELZ
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1/11/2007 6:06 pm |
heheheehee all the best to you my pangga! love you! Just call me ELZ
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Thanks, sis! It's good to see you around, too! I will try but my schedule is so hectic. I am also planning to go to their eb tomorrow if I cna find a way. My sister won't be able to take me and my brother already has something scheduled at her duaghter's school Really good to see you again, though
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