[nopath::desktop_site_core_vice:ffp:english] [nopath::vice_model_desktop_member:ffp:english] [nopath::vice_javascript_logged_in_member:ffp:english]
Close Please enter your Username and Password


eb1209 56F
31712 posts
5/15/2017 5:41 am
Being In Control


Fil-Americans and OFWs (Overseas Filipino Workers) are very prone to abuse by their family, relatives, and friends, and even by their co-nationals. Everytime a Balikbayan decides to spend holidays, vacations or even just a short visit to the Philippines, it always comes with worrying what to bring as gifts to those people. It may sound unfair for me to say that, because the truth is, NOT everyone is like that. However, it cannot be denied that most of them expect something from someone who lives or works abroad. Well, speaking from my own experiences, I learned that even by so doing, people are not satisfied anyway. They always want something different, and more. What the heck! after almost 27 years of living in the USA, I tightened my belt, and I learned to ignore those kind of people. You can never please everyone....On the other hand, loving someone is a very good feeling, but I also learned that I have to either love myself more, or leave something for me, because too much love can be toxic, specially, if it is not reciprocated, worst, not appreciated. Trust? You can never really trust anyone completely, other than yourself...At times, we even doubt our own judgement...And last, they say, it is good to listen to others, but don't let them rule your own life. Learn to speak up and stand up for yourself. If you developed enemies, that is actually GOOD!...That can only mean someone hates you because you stood up for yourself, and they don't like that....It pays to have a control of your own life in accordance to co-existence with others. Otherwise, you are doomed.


Just call me ELZ


eb1209 56F
28052 posts
5/15/2017 5:46 am

I am still here, and will blog, for as long as this site is available... with or without viewers or audience. This is my sanctuary...

Just call me ELZ


ccdomonic 66M
114 posts
5/16/2017 8:18 am

if someone loves you it doesnt matter if you bring them things or not
any one else doesnt matter

ps [ he says hands on hips""where,s MY present?""]


eb1209 56F
28052 posts
5/18/2017 2:50 pm

    Quoting ccdomonic:
    if someone loves you it doesnt matter if you bring them things or not
    any one else doesnt matter

    ps [ he says hands on hips""where,s MY present?""]
CC, what present are you talking about? the one that was lost in the mail?

Just call me ELZ


ccdomonic 66M
114 posts
5/19/2017 8:34 am

elz that must be the one
but that,s in the past now ...not the ""present""
hugs


comman60 56M
2 posts
5/22/2017 12:44 pm

It's interesting to me the filipino people I know and have known seem like some of the most generous people. When I hear you explain how the home folks expect those traveling abroad to bring gifts or there are bad feeling it's surprising to me.


eb1209 56F
28052 posts
5/24/2017 3:40 am

    Quoting comman60:
    It's interesting to me the filipino people I know and have known seem like some of the most generous people. When I hear you explain how the home folks expect those traveling abroad to bring gifts or there are bad feeling it's surprising to me.
Unfortunately, it is our culture THanks for the visit

Just call me ELZ


comman60 56M
2 posts
5/24/2017 4:42 pm

Thanks for sharing that with us.


Internal4 49M
754 posts
6/11/2017 2:14 pm

I would like to believe that I would bring gifts to make people feel happy without the need for appreciation.

Good post ELz...


eb1209 56F
28052 posts
6/12/2017 3:06 am

    Quoting comman60:
    Thanks for sharing that with us.
Thank you, for the visit...Please help keep this bloglandia, alive..

Just call me ELZ


eb1209 56F
28052 posts
6/12/2017 3:07 am

    Quoting Internal4:
    I would like to believe that I would bring gifts to make people feel happy without the need for appreciation.

    Good post ELz...
Oh Wow!...It's been a very long time! It is very good to see you, Now, I am even more feeling nostalgic, thinking about how good bloggers used to flood FFF...Thank you for the visit..

Just call me ELZ