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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209
23211 posts
5/3/2016 2:40 pm
Fear Of the Unknown?..or Fear of Fear?


Don't judge the book by its cover. Sometimes, those who appear very strong and fierce are just putting up a front. Deep inside them, there is this fear, there is weakness, there is softness, there is kindness, and most of all, there is love...but they are afraid to show it, leave alone, entrust themselves to people. Some of them may have been deeply wounded by someone from the past. The healing process may not be complete as yet, or there was no closure at all. Being broken into pieces may have its timetable to recuperate, but once mended, the scar remains. Moving on is easier said than done. Sometimes, one does not even know if s/he is protecting him/herself, or protecting the good memories. It happens when the previous one was colorful, and intense. Anything new is going to suffer in comparison. Again, they say: "Do not compare", but even if you don't intend to, everything in front of your eyes says it all, and you are such a fool if you cannot tell the difference. But we cannot turn back the hands of time, and we cannot hold the present, or pull and fast forward the future. If you need to throw away or burn physical memoirs, so be it!..Don't let them blackmail you into lagging behind, and live from the past. Do not hope that people/things lost are always found. Just like a book, there are new chapters to browse through, and in order to go to the next ones, you need to turn the pages...Maybe, in the long run, you will have a happy ending..But, exactly, what are you afraid of?...To get hurt again? , or are you worried that your quality of relationship is gonna be below par? How are you gonna know if you are not going to try?...Well, only two things can happen. Either you find your "Forever", or "Find Another". If you feel that time has passed you by, what the heck, ain't nothing wrong being alone!..Remember that life is not a pair of slippers..It is an umbrella ..It has a lot of corners, and it can be used for rain or sunshine.. I hope I am making sense here..This blog was originally meant to be serious, but nahhhh! , I've to show the "Many Facets Of Me"...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/4/2016 3:26 am
    Quoting  :
I only have two romantic relationships in the past , MeAnn. One I was married to and one lasted for almost 4 1/2 years. They were both bittersweet. As a matter of fact, super bittersweet. The last one gave me the best memories and the best of everything, but I had to give him up because of religious and cultural reasons. My ex-hubby gave me the best thing I ever had, a wonderful son. Other than that, he was weakened by the distance between us (USA and RP). He succumbed to this evil called infidelity. It took me very long time to recover fro both, and I never trusted anyone again . There were a couple of MU's that never materialized. And now, happily single is my new name. Love expired. Thanks for sharing your story. Mine is an open book but only here in FFF. Not in FB.
Just call me ELZ


oldkanaba 73M
2458 posts
5/4/2016 12:28 pm
I can't comment much on this because women have different perspective from men. But let me just mention that women are more choosy or picky than men. They expect a lot despite their denial that they don't. They want to be happy for themselves now because they were happy for their partners before and it didn't work. I better stop now before I start an argument
I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything


eb1209

5/4/2016 10:38 pm
    Quoting  :
Yes, Marivic! We feel the same about being single now and we both enjoy the travels and the good times with the special friends we knew from here. We also "tested the waters" and it didn't feel right . Now, we are just content that Yes, we are in our 50's but we should be proud that we took good care of ourselves. We even enjoy the compliments of others
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/4/2016 10:41 pm
    Quoting oldkanaba:

    I can't comment much on this because women have different perspective from men. But let me just mention that women are more choosy or picky than men. They expect a lot despite their denial that they don't. They want to be happy for themselves now because they were happy for their partners before and it didn't work. I better stop now before I start an argument
Good job, Ka Bert. It's really better not to argue with women. you can never win.
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/4/2016 10:47 pm
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Jane, I really admire your openness and wisdom. Your thoughts inspire us . Your literary eloquence is very natural. You were so deep into writing from before and yet, you transformed and reached out even to those who cannot grasp the gists of your masterpieces. You have lived your life and gave love too many chances. Until this time, you nener fail to charm men in all ages.
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/4/2016 10:48 pm

 * of all ages
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/5/2016 1:38 pm
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Ruttie, well, the good thing is, despite and inspite of, you're still together and that's what all that matters
Just call me ELZ


elizabethvivian2 49F

5/7/2016 12:29 am

 I love my "single blessedness" which sometimes turns me into a dominatrix.. lol


The_Shaq 53M
33 posts
5/9/2016 9:43 am

 It is not fear but.... next ...


theta2011 53F
1917 posts
5/10/2016 6:50 am

 ELZ,

Fear is relative to everything we do. How much more if it concerns love? To overcome fear is to face it head on, the way to face love. I'll say - go for love, should it come along. Regardless, but heck am a risk taker -


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
5/13/2016 3:51 pm
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Tinks dear sorry for the delayed response I think there will be expectations no matter how minimal it is.
ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
5/13/2016 3:53 pm
    Quoting elizabethvivian2:
    I love my "single blessedness" which sometimes turns me into a dominatrix.. lol
Vivian, to each his or her own. I love being single too and as a matter of fact, I love it so much now, I became very territorial
ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
5/13/2016 3:55 pm
    Quoting theta2011:
    ELZ,

    Fear is relative to everything we do. How much more if it concerns love? To overcome fear is to face it head on, the way to face love. I'll say - go for love, should it come along. Regardless, but heck am a risk taker -
Thet, I wish I am half as risk taker as you are. I tried doing that before but I failed. I came on too strong that I scared the person
ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
5/13/2016 3:58 pm

 Sorry guys! I have to use my other handle coz FFF does not allow me to log on with my eb1209 account. Im using my celfone right now. Pls bear with me
ELZ


eb1209

5/14/2016 2:54 am
    Quoting The_Shaq:
    It is not fear but.... next ...
Hmmmm?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/14/2016 2:57 am

 By the way, I am back with my old handle
Just call me ELZ




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