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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209
23211 posts
1/5/2013 9:47 pm
The Fallacy Of Assumption ( Maling akala) Part 2


There is this famous saying by Filipinos which goes " MARAMING NAMAMATAY SA MALING AKALA"...And really, it is applicable to relationships as well...It can work either way..The first one, when we think the person we admire or like so much does not feel the same about us, OR thinking s/he is head over heels, madly in love with us, when in fact, it's just a product of our imagination or wishful thinking. You have no idea how much we LOSE when we think negatively about something or someone, when in fact, that person was and still is really INTO us from the very beginning...The sad part is, believing that someone is really into you, when all along, s/he is just playing games...And not too many people are willing to CONFRONT the concerned person, just so, whatever false assumption there is, it can be corrected, and as usual...LIFE GOES ON! One can walk away not knowing s/he was wrong all along.. Now what do you want to do?

Just call me ELZ


theta2011 53F
1917 posts
1/6/2013 4:58 am

 ELZ,

Thats why I like open communication where I can say everything however it sounds good or bad to a person..Just so they'll know what to get and what I want to get The 'Truth will set you free' always works for me..and now I'm free


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:04 am
    Quoting  :
And I believe you Jane...I feel that same way too...I mean, you can call me "paranoid" at times, which is really bad, but all my life, if anything, I trust my hunches and instincts..To me, if the person is not right from the very beginning, he is not gonna be right all the way...Hayz!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:09 am

 As matter of fact, put it in our Language, minsan, masasabi mo.."Aba, GAGO talaga itong Mokong na ito!...ano pa ba ang hahanapin sa isang babae na wala ako?"...Only to find out, that sometimes, MEN just need to feed their EGO...They cannot stand the thought of having women who have strong personalities...because they feel threatened...and unfortunately, THAT'S ALL the see!..If there is a checklist at all, the rest of the good marks are set aside, because of that EGO...tsk!tsk!tsk!...Oh well, that is not hard to fathom, since we figured it out...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:10 am

 ...that's ALL they see!...I meant..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:13 am
    Quoting theta2011:
    ELZ,

    Thats why I like open communication where I can say everything however it sounds good or bad to a person..Just so they'll know what to get and what I want to get The 'Truth will set you free' always works for me..and now I'm free
I admire you for that, Thet!...Really, and sometimes, we question ourselves in the end: "DID I DO THE RIGHT THING?"...but if the person cannot take you/us for who and what we are.. then, the relationship is doomed..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:17 am

 But you know, it also happened to me, not only once (and just recently) that the good candidates (because I know them personally and given a choice, I'd rather be with the people that I already know than meeting people here or online) walked away because they got the wrong messages from me..I am very bad when it comes to giving hints, because of my conservative nature.. They thought I wasn't interested in them..(Oh, well, if anything, that's all I can offer at the beginning..)
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:19 am

 Eh, alangan naman kasing maglululundag at maglulupasay ako sa tuwa at galak that yeah, I am interested in you...Dooohhh!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 8:45 am
    Quoting  :
Yeah, and that also is related to my next blog which is not released by FFF, yet..

Just call me ELZ


mr_suave911 80M
Ask me for a photo

1/6/2013 12:40 pm

 hmmm... is this the part where i say: "INTERESTING"?

*bow

"the wildest colts make THE BEST!!! horses."

_dimasalang_
[blog san_pedro]
mutatis_mutandis


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:11 pm
    Quoting mr_suave911:
    hmmm... is this the part where i say: "INTERESTING"?

    *bow
Huh? you are his alter ego?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:15 pm
    Quoting  :
masahol pa sa buhay, nandito yata yung kaluluwa niya, nakikihalubilo
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:19 pm
    Quoting  :
Bestest friend, happiness is immeasurable..and yes, I've been happy, irregardless...who knows? I maybe happier even as it is and as I am right now...Which is why..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:21 pm
    Quoting  :
sinabi mo pa...Maraming ka -echingan magkaminsan..hayz, naku...kung ayaw, eh di huwag...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/6/2013 6:22 pm
    Quoting  :
Yeah, I actually LIKE a few...pero, napako sa LIKE...hahahahahaha!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/7/2013 3:37 am
    Quoting  :
Not a problem Jane...Minsan, it happens to me too, I lose track of my train of thoughts in the middle of my post...but I got it...
Just call me ELZ


barbara72

1/7/2013 8:00 am

 okay, pag love kasi , i never had a problem with cheating, betrayal, or assuming a love that is not there. with my 2 relationships , they both love me back. i gave much more in return. It is OK naman to Assume Love when someone chooses you and pledges to love you.act confidently and immediately about it in the signs of love and honesty and respect. hmmm if you meet a nice man, a real nice man, and you find him special, wag mong balewalain yun,treat him like what he deserved, dont act as if he doesnt exist just because you dont want to give up your emotions and you dont want him to see that you like him too,and afraid that he can hold your neck for that.. open your heart from it. hmm this is particulary came from my first love...hehehe.. so its kinda a decade ago ...i dunno if it will work for you.
Sure naman sometimes some people turn out to be evil, preying on the person they choose. You will not need to keep score, weigh the good against the bad, to spot them. In fact, you will spot them faster when you look for the love in their unfairness, rejection, or selfishness instead. They may be good at faking love, but the love will not be there in their bad acts. And when you see it's not there, the manipulation behind the rest will be a lot more obvious,and you are free to leave


eb1209

1/7/2013 2:04 pm
    Quoting  :
For you, yeah...it's a WIN/WIN, kasi me palibreng "SAMPLE" ka lagi eh...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/7/2013 2:08 pm
    Quoting barbara72:
    okay, pag love kasi , i never had a problem with cheating, betrayal, or assuming a love that is not there. with my 2 relationships , they both love me back. i gave much more in return. It is OK naman to Assume Love when someone chooses you and pledges to love you.act confidently and immediately about it in the signs of love and honesty and respect. hmmm if you meet a nice man, a real nice man, and you find him special, wag mong balewalain yun,treat him like what he deserved, dont act as if he doesnt exist just because you dont want to give up your emotions and you dont want him to see that you like him too,and afraid that he can hold your neck for that.. open your heart from it. hmm this is particulary came from my first love...hehehe.. so its kinda a decade ago ...i dunno if it will work for you.
    Sure naman sometimes some people turn out to be evil, preying on the person they choose. You will not need to keep score, weigh the good against the bad, to spot them. In fact, you will spot them faster when you look for the love in their unfairness, rejection, or selfishness instead. They may be good at faking love, but the love will not be there in their bad acts. And when you see it's not there, the manipulation behind the rest will be a lot more obvious,and you are free to leave
You are right BARBZ, but first and foremost, I must rid this DEMON NERVE inside me which really stops me from giving MYSELF, more than anyone else the chance to really invest more emotions and gamble a bit more...Hayz...!
Just call me ELZ


barbara72

1/7/2013 4:22 pm

 Well , what could be the reason behind it? Have you check? Could be past relationship? when i lost my first love sabi ko thats the end of it all, but hell yeah it took time for me to get into relationship again coz i went throuh a long process of grieving, ganun ata yun when you find a love that both unconditonal and true even with the man gone the flame wont just die down and the hardest part is getting yourself ready coz there are this inner critc that will tell you , oh your heart cant take the next blow, then i fell in love again, i took the risk and its still beautiful. But alam mo na another circumstances fell on me so i have to let it go....afraid to get hurt? Oh yes me too.


eb1209

1/7/2013 7:35 pm
    Quoting barbara72:
    Well , what could be the reason behind it? Have you check? Could be past relationship? when i lost my first love sabi ko thats the end of it all, but hell yeah it took time for me to get into relationship again coz i went throuh a long process of grieving, ganun ata yun when you find a love that both unconditonal and true even with the man gone the flame wont just die down and the hardest part is getting yourself ready coz there are this inner critc that will tell you , oh your heart cant take the next blow, then i fell in love again, i took the risk and its still beautiful. But alam mo na another circumstances fell on me so i have to let it go....afraid to get hurt? Oh yes me too.
Actually, tama ka Barbz eh..Even the last relationship that I had, no matter how it ended, was the most beautiful thing that had happened in my life, and a lot of people really predicted that I was gonna have a hard time finding or having another man in life, without consciously or subconsciously comparing the new to the old..Hayz! but I am past that stage..Naman! it's been close to 14 years now!
Just call me ELZ


barbara72

1/7/2013 7:46 pm

 but........may but kagad ano bang masama kung may makita kang magpapatawa sa iyo o makita ka at papatawanin ka


eb1209

1/7/2013 9:48 pm
    Quoting barbara72:
    but........may but kagad ano bang masama kung may makita kang magpapatawa sa iyo o makita ka at papatawanin ka
Heto na nga, ako na ang nagpapatawa! Look at my latest blog, the FIREWOODs....hehehehe..nagmukhang CIRCUS na tuloy...
Just call me ELZ


ajaw430 54F

1/8/2013 3:05 am
    Quoting  :
Tajane, nothing is secure in this world, even if declared kayo na, if not meant, kumakawala pa rin
Di ba nga ate, sometimes I ask your confirmation? baka ako lang kasi nag assume!
Anyway, as long as your happy and always learning too, lol


ajaw430 54F

1/8/2013 3:12 am
    Quoting barbara72:
    but........may but kagad ano bang masama kung may makita kang magpapatawa sa iyo o makita ka at papatawanin ka
Exactly Barbz , basta ikaw naman me dala ng kaldero na magpatawa sa iyo, and enjoy life na walang tinatapakan


ajaw430 54F

1/8/2013 3:18 am

 Elz I like that quote, you know your worth if they create space for you...if not okey pa rin coz me too, I reach that level Im happy for what I have, got kids and friends who always support me




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