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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209
23211 posts
6/18/2012 10:17 am
So, It's Not Okay?


FRIENDS and LOVERS, there is a distinct difference, but life is such, that if you don't have a lover, at least, you have a friend. However, when, you have a lover, at times, you are limited as to who and what kind of friends you can be with. I hope you are all following me...lolz..

What I'm saying is, most of the time, when you already have a partner, be it a husband, wife, GF/BF, (and what else? ) more than likely, your partner will have this to say: " You can talk to some wo/men, or even party with them, EXCEPT ____." To which you'll say: " Why? don't you trust me? "...." Oh yeah! I trust YOU, but I DON'T TRUST HER/HIM! 'coz everytime s/he gets near you, I can sense that s/he wants to take you away from me! "

And so, given that scenario...I would like to ask my readers: "How do you deal with this?"..It's like saying, IT'S OKAY, but IT'S NOT REALLY OKAY!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/18/2012 5:26 pm

 I don't know what's wrong with FFF, but this blog was already on the main page and they removed it, for what?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/18/2012 7:31 pm
    Quoting  :
Ahahahahahaha! Charlie, Charlie...The reason why I posted this picture is just to make sense...He is the hubby of a very close HS friend...Just for the illustration purposes...But in reality, some people have placed restrictions on their partners...NOT TO DO THIS, NOT TO CALL who, NOT to SEE whom, and what and what NOT!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 5:22 am
    Quoting  :
Oh no! that's a pearl adorned ring...Just one of those...hehehehe... although I have had a ring with a big rock on it the last time
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 5:23 am

 By the way, where were we?
Just call me ELZ


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
6/19/2012 6:24 am

 Elz,

Whatever the limitations are. No matter how strict the rules. It will always be broken. And even if you try your hardest to stay away...destiny steps in. And the consequence in the end karma what u call it happens.
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


eb1209

6/19/2012 2:29 pm
    Quoting TessRb:
    Elz,

    Whatever the limitations are. No matter how strict the rules. It will always be broken. And even if you try your hardest to stay away...destiny steps in. And the consequence in the end karma what u call it happens.
Tess, I am not sure which side of the coin are you referring to? Did you mean, you, not allowing your partner to stay in touch with particular someone? or that particular someone not letting your special someone to be with you?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 2:31 pm
    Quoting  :
Bwahahahahaha! you know Bestest Friend, at this point, I am really sick at home, but by just reading this one, my headaches got worse..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 2:32 pm
    Quoting  :
Waitta minute! I'm still confused..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 2:34 pm
    Quoting  :
But what if THE PERSON is just waiting to be TAKEN AWAY? Meaning, just waiting for the right person to "save" him/her from his/her present predicament?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 2:36 pm
    Quoting  :
consider yourself the "mate", this time...What would you do?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 2:37 pm

 Deng! I think, I need more tylenol...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 2:39 pm

 And what if the relationship is just an MU? or Mutual Understanding, or a kind where it's just TEMPORARY, until the other will find someone s/he truly deserves...?...Ay!ay!ay!...I guess, this is more confusing now? or shall I say, this is a one-sided, consolation type of a relationship...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 2:42 pm
    Quoting  :
Yes! you do make some sense! There is this thing called "obligatory conformity", just to pacify someone and make that person believe that s/he is the only one at the moment...But the more you remind or forbid that person, that more he will "sneak" away...
Just call me ELZ


jane82 110F

6/19/2012 5:39 pm

 It depends on each couple how they'll deal with it and whether they've built a strong foundation of trust and confidence in each other's ability to say no and remain self-ware and practice self-control.

Honestly, during the early stage it was hard to watch the other fellow women getting too close for comfort, but over time it was easier to deal with as I found there's not much to worry on either side. No need to sweat or freak out until it happens. If anything does occur unexpectedly, it's out of our control and at worst, it tells us whether the trust was deserved or misplaced.


within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
6/19/2012 7:58 pm
    Quoting eb1209:
    Tess, I am not sure which side of the coin are you referring to? Did you mean, you, not allowing your partner to stay in touch with particular someone? or that particular someone not letting your special someone to be with you?
Elz,

I'm talking on both counts from someone and my own experience. I read in Janey's blog. About open relationship and how one couple made their marriage last that way. The hell i've gone thru, makes me never to see a man ever again...
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


eb1209

6/19/2012 9:13 pm
    Quoting jane82:
    It depends on each couple how they'll deal with it and whether they've built a strong foundation of trust and confidence in each other's ability to say no and remain self-ware and practice self-control.

    Honestly, during the early stage it was hard to watch the other fellow women getting too close for comfort, but over time it was easier to deal with as I found there's not much to worry on either side. No need to sweat or freak out until it happens. If anything does occur unexpectedly, it's out of our control and at worst, it tells us whether the trust was deserved or misplaced.
But at least, you trusted, right? that's the good part, and also, you tried to be civil with everyone else who came close to your love...at least, you can tell who among them wanted to steal him away from you (if ever there was any)...And thank God, you're still intact because, really, there's nothing to worry about...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 9:14 pm
    Quoting TessRb:
    Elz,

    I'm talking on both counts from someone and my own experience. I read in Janey's blog. About open relationship and how one couple made their marriage last that way. The hell i've gone thru, makes me never to see a man ever again...
Huh? Hayan ka na na naman, Tess...Para naman tayong broken record nito..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 9:15 pm
    Quoting  :
Sa totoo lang, this she/he/it really gives me a headache..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 9:17 pm

 But on the other hand...Some people live through lies...Either they're the one lying, or they get used to being lied to/upon...tsk!tsk!tsk!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/19/2012 9:20 pm

 And some people just give in to what their partner demands...Just to save the relationship, maybe? you know..It won't hurt losing friends, rather than losing your "mate"...sayang din yun!
Just call me ELZ


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
6/19/2012 9:43 pm
    Quoting eb1209:
    Huh? Hayan ka na na naman, Tess...Para naman tayong broken record nito..
Elz,

Di ba totoo. Fallin in love w/ a weirdo. And looking back at it, my God i could have been killed at any given moment. Yun pala demonio to the max...
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
6/19/2012 9:44 pm

 Cute ninyong dalawa dito sa pics. Bagay!!!
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


eb1209

6/20/2012 7:11 pm
    Quoting TessRb:
    Elz,

    Di ba totoo. Fallin in love w/ a weirdo. And looking back at it, my God i could have been killed at any given moment. Yun pala demonio to the max...
Good thing is you're out of his life!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/20/2012 7:13 pm
    Quoting TessRb:
    Cute ninyong dalawa dito sa pics. Bagay!!!
[colorblue] ngeeekkkkkk! He is the hubby of a very close HS Batchmate...Posing lang iyan...He is "machonurin" to his wife..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

6/20/2012 7:13 pm
    Quoting  :
Which is why!
Just call me ELZ




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