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2/28/2012 4:37 am

Common Reality Issue That No One Wants To Talk About......

This topic could hurt men's ego, but it's been happening, and most women hate to admit it. But, lately, one of my very close friends got entangled into an unusual relationship (again) and I just couldn't help but be disappointed and dismayed.

22 years ago, this friend of mine met a man 10 years her junior. He was still a college student then, and she was about to depart to the USA (with our group) for a Nursing Job assignment. He wanted to marry her before she'd leave RP so that by the time she's stable here, she'd petition him immediately. She spent a huge amount to pay city hall employee to "ante-date" registration and the marriage license application so that the day before our departure, they were wed (thank God, I was not one of the witnesses) . True enough, with the H14 visa, he joined her in less than 2 years. Even in RP, she'd pamper him with gifts, and she'd foot all their dating bills. Fine! when they were married already, it didn't matter anymore whether he worked or not, or if she paid for all the expenses and what not. But, very soon, he sought for younger women and dated them using his wife's credit cards...To make the long story short, since they already had 3 young (in fairness, he may not be a good husband, but he was a good father to his ), they were just living under one roof for the sake of the , and for my friend NOT to pay him alimony, since she earns a lot more than him ( yes, he had a job). But get this one:

Lately, this friend of mine is dating a guy 12 years her senior (now the opposite). He's a retired military man, but he has a job as a civilian. It's very complicated, because she's still with her hubby, and I don't know much about him, but they sleep at their common friend's house "whenever"! ..When we were going out, I noticed that my friend was the one who always paid for their bills, and there was no single moment that I saw this old guy even pretend to dig into his pocket. The last day of our meeting, they accompanied me to an Asian store where my friend and I walked through the different aisles to find our stuff, while the man went to get some fish and meat, and veggies since he was the one who'd do the cooking. He had no shame in looking for my friend and told her in front of me that he needed her to pay for the stuff at the cashier's counter. My shoulder dropped in dismay...WHY?...I was thinking, I'm sure, he's got money of his own (from his retirement, and from his present job) I supposed. Besides, the stuff didn't cost an arm and a leg to begin with...Jesus Christ!...I couldn't help it, but I had to show some smirks on my face., and lacking privacy to talk with my friend at that time..I mustered to tell her " PLEASE DO NOT SPOIL THIS OLD GUY THE WAY YOU SPOILED YOUR HUSBAND! "....For heaven's sake, they're still going 4 months into their relationship and already "that" ? ...I know, it's none of my business, but what are friends for if I don't give her a much needed advice? One cannot correct the wrong by doing another wrong thing for maybe the "wrong person"... I didn't want to think of him as a D.O.M coz he didn't qualify (not age-wise) you know what I mean, right?

But you see, I've seen that many times. Even in the restaurants, I often see women footing the tabs. I guess, for married people, it's okay. But if you're a woman who's just into early stages of relationship and already pampering your man, you are heading for "trouble"...but oh well,

And I've been pretty fair with men in group outings. I tell them, we are all professionals and are gainfully employed, so they don't have to worry about paying the bills...We split it equally...Fair Enough? But on dates, specially, the first couple of months...Come On now!
Just call me ELZ

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