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1/2/2012 9:00 am

FB: Make or Break?

FB had tremendously made possible connecting people (family, long lost friends,relatives, classmates, etc.) who have lost touch for so many years, and so many are grateful, because it serves as the venue to interact and stay in touch again, and also to make new friends. However, FB had also made possible for old flames of former lovers to rekindle again, and actually had broken many homes..

During my recent trip to Houston, TX, I counseled a former co-worker who confided to me that she plans to divorce her husband of 14 years because she couldn't stand his "verbal abuse" and controlling behavior anymore. She also confessed to me that she met her former BF/fiance` at FB just this past November. He is stationed in California and is divorced. He is willing to take her back, and now, she is "seeing" all her husband's flaws all the more, and realized she couldn't take it anymore! It's this series of rebound relationships..First of all, when she and this Californian Ex of hers broke up their engagement (apparently, he got a young girl pregnant at that time), she met this hubby of hers now in Guam (who had also just gone through divorce at that time), and since both of them, were "lonely", they decided to hit it off, and boom! she got pregnant and they had to get married. And now what?...in just a matter of month of re-connection, she decides to divorce her present hubby now for the sake of someone who gave her up in the first place?..I will not get into the details of what I had advised her..but I told her firmly: "How many series of mistakes do you have to go through, in order for you to learn your lessons?...Taking a plunge each time you are not happy, will not solve your problem. It may even complicate things more, specially that you have two to consider. It's not as easy as you think.."

Guess what? a few days later, when I reached back home, I opened my FB and there was this guy who invited me to be his friend. Lo, and behold!...He was the first guy my Mom allowed to court me when I was 17 going 18..No, he wasn't my BF, but he really was head over heels on me. Hardcore courtship as in the olden days. He would visit me at home each day, and gifted me and my mom with so many things, including canisters of mangoes and bagoong from Pangasinan. He was very sweet, but I was very young then, and wasn't ready for any relationship. He was 8 years my senior. And out of curiosity, I checked his FB profile first even before accepting his request. His was public, so I was able to view the photos. He is married with 3 . There you go! I clicked the "iggy" button...No way I'll reconnect with someone who may rekindle his interest in me...No way I'll be an instrument to break a family...I'd rather stay single, but not complicated..This was his picture when he was very young. He's cute, wasn't he?

Be careful who you are interacting with at FB...And please, do not covet someone who belongs to somebody else. Get your own!
Just call me ELZ

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