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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209
23211 posts
8/29/2010 3:49 am
How Do You Lose Friends Easily?


Good Friends are hard to find, but easy to lose when we take them for granted and think that they will always be there for us, even though we are not there for them. I'd say in any given relationship, "Give and Take" will always be the determinant on how the whole thing is gonna last. Sometimes, we are swamped with tons of worries this modern world has brought upon us that we neglect to even say hello to our friends, or even drop a note to say "How are you doing?". Being "busy" had always been an excuse, and it's not valid anymore. It takes years to develop a very strong relationship, but it'll take a lifetime of regret once we lose it, just because we didn't "make time" to care. We always assume and presume that good friends will always be there for us, but isn't that "one way" ? Friends are like two feet, one is on the left and one is on the right. At times, we need to alternate each side, so that we know how it feels...

Just call me ELZ


coxkevin 42M

8/29/2010 5:22 am

 Boss, you are 100% right...... Most of the time we forgets to say "Hello" to our friends, b'cos of the busy world...
The word "Hello" is a great word if we knows exactly what it means:
H = How are you?
E = Everything alright?
L = Like to hear from you
L = Love to see you soon!
O = Obviously, I missed you!!

So, hello is a meaningful sweet word!!! Say "Hello"


eb1209

8/29/2010 7:13 am
    Quoting coxkevin:
    Boss, you are 100% right...... Most of the time we forgets to say "Hello" to our friends, b'cos of the busy world...
    The word "Hello" is a great word if we knows exactly what it means:
    H = How are you?
    E = Everything alright?
    L = Like to hear from you
    L = Love to see you soon!
    O = Obviously, I missed you!!

    So, hello is a meaningful sweet word!!! Say "Hello"
This is wonderful, RAJ_jie! Thanks for sharing! I've lost quite a few of meaningful friends, because all of a sudden they just "detached" themselves without a warning, and some of them, when they came back, things just don't feel so right anymore...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 7:15 am
    Quoting  :
And HELLO to you, too Baby! You look and sound like a loyal friend...and therefore, a loyal sweetheart!
Just call me ELZ


coxkevin 42M

8/29/2010 7:16 am
    Quoting  :
Hello mah bestttttttttttttttt


eb1209

8/29/2010 7:18 am

 I remember one day, during a priest's sermon in the church...He said: "In this lifetime, we are lucky if we have ONE, TRUE, and LOYAL FRIEND...that's all we need anyway..JUST ONE..so, let's nurture that friendship."
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 7:21 am

 I do believe that we categorize our friends according to the level of affinity, just how close they've been to us, and how they've touched our lives...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 7:22 am

 There are those who are only here for a REASON, and some for a SEASON, and others (if we are lucky) remain with us for a LIFETIME..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 7:26 am

 But then again, let's go back to the question: "How Do You Lose Friends Easily?"
Just call me ELZ


frozenflower3 64F

8/29/2010 7:29 am

 Good morning Elz!!!

Absolutely, right on this one. Every day cares and worries gets us every day. But, we should really take the time to call and just say "how you doing". Wishing you a wonderful sunday!!!


eb1209

8/29/2010 7:30 am

 Are you the type who automatically shy away from friends once you are in a "romantic relationship?"...For let's face it, that's a common practice by most, whether it's demanded by your partner or you voluntarily submit yourself "exclusively" without any solicitation.
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 7:37 am

 I've had quite a few of friends who disengaged from me and others once they get "related", as in totally out of touch, but once they "split" with their partners, I am the one they contact right away...You know that feeling?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 8:41 am
    Quoting  :
Hahahahahah! Smiley, Dahlen`..You have a point here...but other friends are brassieres with broken wires, they "lift us up" at times, and then, they "poke" our boobies or armpits!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 8:43 am

 Regarding losing an A$$hole partner/friend?...That's easy!..All they need to do is stay as they are...( A$$holes )
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 8:46 am

 And that's true too.. People change, even if they promise you the moon, the sun, and the stars...Those who said they'll NEVER, evah leave yah, are the ones who rush to "git-outta-d-door" when things are no longer in their favor...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 8:49 am

 Negligence, I'd say is one of the reasons why friends are no longer friends. They've considered the relationship as "dispensable" thinking it's retrievable...
Just call me ELZ


achtungbabyZ2 49F

8/29/2010 9:12 am

 just a few months ago, i lost 4 of my closests friends. i dunno if i 'lost' them because as far as i am concerned, i was always there for them. at times when they did something wrong to others and i have to make a choice, i will still chose them coz they are my friends even if i know what they did was wrong. but in the end, i chose to walk away as i feel that they were not 'real friends' to me. whatever i do will never be enough for them coz they keep askingf or more. that is not the kond of friends or friendship that i want so i walked away. till now, im still wondering, did i do the right thing? i still feel sad from time to time whenever i think about them but at the same time, i learned how to let other people into my life. whereas before, i feel that i dont really need to let others in to my life as i have everything i need and want, i was wrong. now, when i meet people, i dont feel that i have to put up a wall to keep them away.

sorry 'te elz, i dont think i answered your question at all. as usual, im rambling again.


eb1209

8/29/2010 10:27 am
    Quoting frozenflower3:
    Good morning Elz!!!

    Absolutely, right on this one. Every day cares and worries gets us every day. But, we should really take the time to call and just say "how you doing". Wishing you a wonderful sunday!!!
Tess,you are one consistent, sweet and caring friend, in REAL and/or CYBER world...We are blessed to have you in our lives..
Just call me ELZ


jean_1000 47F

8/29/2010 10:43 am
    Quoting coxkevin:
    Boss, you are 100% right...... Most of the time we forgets to say "Hello" to our friends, b'cos of the busy world...
    The word "Hello" is a great word if we knows exactly what it means:
    H = How are you?
    E = Everything alright?
    L = Like to hear from you
    L = Love to see you soon!
    O = Obviously, I missed you!!

    So, hello is a meaningful sweet word!!! Say "Hello"
HELLO RAJJJJJ

love is the greatest gift of all


jean_1000 47F

8/29/2010 10:46 am
    Quoting  :
HELLO BABYYYY SORY I WAS BUSY LATELY...BUT I CATCH UP LATER

love is the greatest gift of all


jean_1000 47F

8/29/2010 10:48 am
    Quoting eb1209:
    But then again, let's go back to the question: "How Do You Lose Friends Easily?"
luck of communication

love is the greatest gift of all


jean_1000 47F

8/29/2010 10:50 am
    Quoting eb1209:
    But then again, let's go back to the question: "How Do You Lose Friends Easily?"
also if you love at the same person...

love is the greatest gift of all


jean_1000 47F

8/29/2010 10:51 am
    Quoting jean_1000:
    also if you love at the same person...
turn into jealousy

love is the greatest gift of all


Bebong2010 56F

8/29/2010 12:22 pm
    Quoting eb1209:
    But then again, let's go back to the question: "How Do You Lose Friends Easily?"
by being myself(?)
only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide


eb1209

8/29/2010 12:55 pm
    Quoting achtungbabyZ2:
    just a few months ago, i lost 4 of my closests friends. i dunno if i 'lost' them because as far as i am concerned, i was always there for them. at times when they did something wrong to others and i have to make a choice, i will still chose them coz they are my friends even if i know what they did was wrong. but in the end, i chose to walk away as i feel that they were not 'real friends' to me. whatever i do will never be enough for them coz they keep askingf or more. that is not the kond of friends or friendship that i want so i walked away. till now, im still wondering, did i do the right thing? i still feel sad from time to time whenever i think about them but at the same time, i learned how to let other people into my life. whereas before, i feel that i dont really need to let others in to my life as i have everything i need and want, i was wrong. now, when i meet people, i dont feel that i have to put up a wall to keep them away.

    sorry 'te elz, i dont think i answered your question at all. as usual, im rambling again.
Phoebe, on the contrary, all you stated here makes sense. Because it's the painful truth. At times, we over-rate our friends, and it usually comes with expectations that they FEEL the same way we do, but you are right in a way that friendship becomes ONE WAY specially, if you're always the one who's with them most of the time. It's also the right thing to LET GO, when you know they are no longer there for you and that they're just there for a season...Even friends are like doors...When one closes, another opens...Kudos to good friends like you!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

8/29/2010 12:58 pm
    Quoting  :
But, Lei, a-MIGZ, we need to FEEL them too!
Just call me ELZ




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