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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209
23211 posts
5/20/2010 4:17 pm
He Proved Them Wrong! .... (A very touching story)


Several years ago, he was a very disturbed , a rebellious one. Someone who was torn between being a person past the childhood, and that of being a young adult. He had too many questions and doubts. He was blaming my work as an RN in a foreign country (USA)for our broken family. He didn't understand a lot of personal issues. He felt left out because he didn't have a father image, and was mostly left under the care of his grandma, while I was working hard to provide him a good and comfortable life. He was hurting each time he heard people criticizing him and making presumptions that he will not make it as a professional someday because he is a product of a broken family. He even heard comments from the parents of one of the girls he courted before that he is not going to be a good partner because of his family background.

It was a huge struggle for us to readjust to each other as mother and in year 2002 when he finally joined me here in TX. I felt slightly "rejected" during the first year back together. It's understandable because he didn't grow up with me (and I didn't have much choices at that time) and in as much as I wanted to, I couldn't take back the hands of time. I pointed out that even I, am a product of a broken family, and yet, all 5 of us, siblings, have been successful in each of our pursuits in life because of the positive attitude that our mother instilled in us. In return, I continued to guide him, supported him, and played as a good role model to him, even though it wasn't easy to do. I felt so unappreciated until it was time for him to be on his own....That was the time, he took responsibility for himself. That was the time, I started "seeing" myself in him as a professional. Independent as he was, I never stopped showing him love and support in any way I can...

Today, I received an email from him, and it truly touched my heart and brought tears on my face...He wrote:

"Mom, I proved them ALL wrong!...I finished college, I became Charge Nurse 6 months after I became an RN, worked for 2 years, and now I am here in Dubai, training as an FA/Cabin Crew for the Emirates..Now, I believe you more than ever...It's not about what other people think about me. It's all about how I think about myself and who/what I wanna be. Look at those whose families are intact, and those who thought I wouldn't make it...My contemporaries are still trying to figure out what majors they are going to take, and most of them dropped out of school. Thank you so much mom for not giving up on me. Thank you for everything that you've done for me, and most of all, thank you for your love. I love you and miss you mom! You take care.../MARK"

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/20/2010 4:40 pm

 He is presently undergoing extensive training at the Emirates Aviation College for 6 weeks, and then, he'll graduate, then after that, he is going to see the world...I am so proud of him!
Just call me ELZ


frozenflower3 64F

5/20/2010 6:30 pm

 Elz,

I'm so crying reading this touching and wonderful story of your son. And all your sacrifices as a great mom.


Sulei 66M
8039 posts
5/20/2010 6:58 pm

 Elz, you harvest what you plant!! that is natural and logic result! now u feel your efforts were not gone for nothing! Good luck for Mark, and congratulations to you!


val_entino 44M
604 posts
5/20/2010 8:50 pm

 That's life for many teenagers growing up in the Philippines coz the country depended so much on remittances worth $ billions/year sent by OFWs. Those who discouraged him were envious like so many who struggle coz of low salary and bad economic situation.. Filipinos are hopeful Noynoy Aquino can do something about it. It's also tough when families are separated..bonding is nonexistent. I agree with aloofa..not others who turned to 'barkada' depending only on resources being sent by their relatives abroad.


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:10 am
    Quoting eb1209:
    He is presently undergoing extensive training at the Emirates Aviation College for 6 weeks, and then, he'll graduate, then after that, he is going to see the world...I am so proud of him!
Correction please, it's not 6 weeks, it's 6 months...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:12 am

 And by the looks of it, he already lost weight because of the adjustment in food and lifestyle, and of course, the rigid training where they do simulation service for ground and air service on all kinds of aircrafts that the Emirates have...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:14 am
    Quoting  :
Thanks a lot Dan...He is a sweet kid, I guess, he just went through that difficult stage in his life, where parents need to give a lot of love and guidance...I am not a perfect mom, but I gave him ALL that I could....
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:15 am
    Quoting  :
Thanks Kim! ...My life is an open book, and most of the bloggers know me for being REAL in everything. I have nothing to hide about me..WHat you see and read is ME, I, and MYSELF...People accept me for who I am..Those who don't aren't my friends... ALOHA!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:17 am
    Quoting  :
Justine, I know that most moms will be "touched" by our story...I know that a lot of you can relate with us..It's the fact of being a single parent's life that is so REAL...You take care, and FEEL well..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:20 am
    Quoting  :
Loofie, thank you! I'm not sure if you've got kids, but I hope when you do, you won't have as much difficult times like we did...I am not ashamed of who and what we were, but I am proud of what we've become...TC!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:23 am
    Quoting frozenflower3:
    Elz,

    I'm so crying reading this touching and wonderful story of your son. And all your sacrifices as a great mom.
Tess, those who know the REAL ELZ and my humble beginnings, find strength and tenacity behind "my profile pictures"...I'm NOT as glamorous and classy as what other people think I am. It's just how I carry myself and feel dignified despite the harshness of the realities in life. Most of all, it's the positive attitude...Thank you for being my friend..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:26 am
    Quoting Sulei:
    Elz, you harvest what you plant!! that is natural and logic result! now u feel your efforts were not gone for nothing! Good luck for Mark, and congratulations to you!
Sulei, being a single mom, is never easy...But making the most of what life has to offer and believing in one's self will always get us through...Thank you!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:30 am
    Quoting val_entino:
    That's life for many teenagers growing up in the Philippines coz the country depended so much on remittances worth $ billions/year sent by OFWs. Those who discouraged him were envious like so many who struggle coz of low salary and bad economic situation.. Filipinos are hopeful Noynoy Aquino can do something about it. It's also tough when families are separated..bonding is nonexistent. I agree with aloofa..not others who turned to 'barkada' depending only on resources being sent by their relatives abroad.
VAL, we were criticized by Pinoys who were both here in TX and in the Philippines...The social stigma that they placed upon broken families and children whose parents are not together was so demoralizing and could dampen anyone's spirits. People are sometimes harsh and judgemental. But again, if we go by what they say, then so be it!...We will not succeed...I am also hopeful that the new RP President will make a difference in the lives of those who are in the country. It's about time. Thank you too!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 3:31 am
    Quoting  :
Never give up, and Never say NEVER!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 8:23 am
    Quoting  :
Patience and perseverance together with love pays off in due time...Thanks, my dear friend...My appreciation!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/21/2010 8:25 am
    Quoting  :
Birds of same feathers, flock together they say...Mahalo! Kim
Just call me ELZ


jane82 110F

5/22/2010 4:20 am

 kudos to your son Mark. Hello to him and the best of luck to his future endeavors.

Very blessed to have each other.
And he's additionally blessed knowing you'll stand by him, empathize with him and soothe him from any criticisms he faces.

A display of a real mother's unconditional love.
Very proud of you too.


within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.


eb1209

5/22/2010 1:55 pm
    Quoting jane82:
    kudos to your son Mark. Hello to him and the best of luck to his future endeavors.

    Very blessed to have each other.
    And he's additionally blessed knowing you'll stand by him, empathize with him and soothe him from any criticisms he faces.

    A display of a real mother's unconditional love.
    Very proud of you too.
Thanks, Janey! ...Someday, you'll be a mother too, and you'll understand us, mothers, more..Have a great weekend!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/23/2010 2:57 pm
    Quoting  :
Hey there Trish! It's good to see you here! Thanks for the compliments..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/23/2010 2:58 pm
    Quoting  :
Migz, I guess, all mothers have special stories to share re: their children..Salamat!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/24/2010 4:47 am
    Quoting  :
Thanks for the visit Belle!
Just call me ELZ


sofiame 53F
534 posts
5/24/2010 10:22 pm

 congrats and good luck to your son..


eb1209

5/25/2010 3:52 am
    Quoting  :
My dear, just hang in there! I know that you guys are having problems posting and viewing, but look at this post of yours...two in a row, visible from my POV as well as my standard handle godiva0824...Let's wait a bit more...Maybe patience will take us all a long way..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/25/2010 3:53 am
    Quoting sofiame:
    congrats and good luck to your son..
Thanks my dear...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

5/25/2010 5:32 pm
    Quoting  :
That's good to hear, my darlen`
Just call me ELZ




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