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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209

2/2/2010 4:15 pm
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Wow!..I like that! and if you don't renew, your NEXT marriage should be a LOT EXPENSIVE in terms of paying the license...How about that? Meaning, the succeeding marriages should be hundredfolds worth...or even more...Still something that people should think about...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/2/2010 4:18 pm
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Well, that is very TRUE!...You know, people prepare for no less than a year for their wedding, and spend so much money on it, and then what? get a divorce, lose everything to the lawyers, and they end up indebted after splitting whatever there is that's left...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/2/2010 4:20 pm
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That's good for people who love "QUICKIE" things

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/2/2010 4:22 pm
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Ohhh! I don't know what to say..People are together either because they are in LOVE, they LIKE each other, they want to fulfill the COMMITMENTS they have to their parents and culture, or merely for SECURITY and COMPANIONSHIP...Either way you look at it...No Man Is An Island..But wait, why am I alone then?

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/2/2010 4:25 pm
    Quoting pinoylover1:
    JEAN...increasingly as years go by men and women are becoming liberalized or openminded when it comes to open relationship...so many men and women are becoming more adventurous to their chosen relationship or alternative lifestyle...in the old days it was a taboo...
If I may quote you on this Manny...It's all about how people have embraced what others have tried which worked well for them...Love and commitment is sweetly achieved and maintained if the couples are not restricted to the conventional laws of marriages...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/2/2010 4:40 pm
And again, (Oh! I love this discussion, because it makes me practise my first love, that, of being a LAWYER) just like any contract, marriage should really have multiple CLAUSES and should be prepared by the Lawyer of the couple's choice according to what and what not their desires are..However, the CHURCH is more conventional and simplified..more of TILL DEATH DO US PART...Everything else, is outside of it's scope..You want to get out of that simple contract, it's gonna cost you a lot of time, money and effort, you're better off just saving that marriage...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/2/2010 4:42 pm
    Quoting pinoylover1:
    ELZ...m going into heavy relationship coz both of us have the ability to accept our imperfection as partners in crime...love may or will grow as days go by...men and women are all different in every aspect of a relationship...true love is a long term goals...
Manny, do you know, by just reading that, you make me DAYDREAM again? Nice!

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/2/2010 4:45 pm
    Quoting pinoylover1:
    Roxy...the real winners in many divorces are the divorce lawyers...
I agree!..They don't really care about the aftermath of that divorce...Their job is done...to help to BREAK...oh, well, somebody's got to do it, that happens to be them ..Talking about different roles in this life..

Just call me ELZ


name_withheld 60F

2/2/2010 5:08 pm
    Quoting eb1209:
    Jeff, it can work one way or another...One thing I'd probably suggest to the LawMakers and that is to PUT A CLAUSE on the marriage contract, making this EXPIRATION as an OPTION...But that's just me...It's like a checklist, you know, you either put a check on the box or put a N/A for NOT APPLICABLE...And that, of course applies to those who don't intend to have the EXPIRATION and would rather take chances on their marriage and KEEP it the way it should be...And if by any chance, something goes wrong, then, they can OPT for the annulment or divorce...NO SHORTCUTS...What do you think, folks?
Elz!!!!!! when do you imagine the couple ticking that box? I am ROTFLMAO imagining them doing that during the ceremony itself. Think of how they would both be tension-filled deciding whether to check the box or not. Would there be two boxes????? If the husband ticked the box and the wife didn't want it ticked (or vice versa) I bet one move and they go straight to court from the church to get a divorce. But surely it should be understood that they have talked about it before the ceremony. 'Just imagining funny situations here

so the question stands...and the options remain: here in the Philippines, we can only get out of a marriage when the other partner is "sumakabilang buhay na" -- not quite if only "sumakabilang-bahay na"


eb1209

2/2/2010 5:20 pm
    Quoting name_withheld:
    Elz!!!!!! when do you imagine the couple ticking that box? I am ROTFLMAO imagining them doing that during the ceremony itself. Think of how they would both be tension-filled deciding whether to check the box or not. Would there be two boxes????? If the husband ticked the box and the wife didn't want it ticked (or vice versa) I bet one move and they go straight to court from the church to get a divorce. But surely it should be understood that they have talked about it before the ceremony. 'Just imagining funny situations here

    so the question stands...and the options remain: here in the Philippines, we can only get out of a marriage when the other partner is "sumakabilang buhay na" -- not quite if only "sumakabilang-bahay na"
Jeannie, sweetie..What I know here in the USA (Christian weddings or not) is that there is this wedding rehearsals and with that, includes looking at the blank marriage contract...So, you are right, there should be a DRY RUN...and they must be on the same page, otherwise, marriage is null and void from the very beginning, because there is no unity of minds...lolz!...that is funny, my dear.....Sumakabilang-BAHAY...korek ka jan!

Just call me ELZ


pinoylover1 74M
1152 posts
2/2/2010 9:19 pm
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Roxy...in many divorce scenario the lawyers are the culprit...they are the ones responsible for prolonging the case and that's how they make more money frm their clients...


pinoylover1 74M
1152 posts
2/2/2010 9:25 pm
    Quoting eb1209:
    Manny, do you know, by just reading that, you make me DAYDREAM again? Nice!
ELZ...keep on DAYDREAMING lolzz


eb1209

2/3/2010 3:01 am
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Sweetheart, if your hubby happened NOT to have a stable and well paying job...that $450/month could have paid a regular car for 5 years...But, that's what divorce and FREEDOM is for...You have to pay dearly for it...but it's worth fighting for..Specially, if in the end, you get the BEST...and that's what you are to your Aswit..

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/3/2010 3:03 am
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Just like seeing a doctor in the clinic...Just putting his stethoscope on your chest is gonna cost you a fortune!

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/3/2010 3:04 am
    Quoting pinoylover1:
    Roxy...in many divorce scenario the lawyers are the culprit...they are the ones responsible for prolonging the case and that's how they make more money frm their clients...
I've seen that happening to my friends here...very true Manny!

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/3/2010 3:06 am
It feeds my fantasy, my dear...I am content to have something in my dream that I do not have in real life...Because in my dreams, I always have the BEST beginning, the present, and the END...

Just call me ELZ


jane82 110F

2/3/2010 8:00 am

 I'd love to be able to answer the question more directly, but sorry I can't because I lack experience on the marriage department.

However, I can see why marriage becomes daunting for some people because if couples' fantasies of marriage don't transfer to reality they may feel trapped.

What I know is I could say something today and it might bite me in the azz in a few years and I could well change my mind depending on the outcome.

Que sera sera... Wag lang sira sira.

Thanks for the replies.


within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.


jane82 110F

2/3/2010 8:07 am

 If you ever get married Ate Elz. Wish you all the best.


within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.


im_stacy
(Stacy Gielen) 113F
2795 posts
2/3/2010 8:41 am
Hats off to all the eloquent commentators here. I'm an old-fashioned thinker who still believes that marriage is a Till Death Do Us Part Contract, a sacred union which provides a solid base for couples who are eventually blessed with children. Children need both male and female role models to maximize their maturity and development. Sure, some people don't have that opportunity and seem to turn out just fine. But for developmental reasons, there's no substitute for the diversity and impact that both a mother & father bring to the maturation and life education of a child.

When I low my friends et al give me energy.


eb1209

2/3/2010 6:40 pm
    Quoting jane82:
    I'd love to be able to answer the question more directly, but sorry I can't because I lack experience on the marriage department.

    However, I can see why marriage becomes daunting for some people because if couples' fantasies of marriage don't transfer to reality they may feel trapped.

    What I know is I could say something today and it might bite me in the azz in a few years and I could well change my mind depending on the outcome.

    Que sera sera... Wag lang sira sira.

    Thanks for the replies.
You're doing very well in your participation Jeanny..You are young but very mature thinking...Atta girl!

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/3/2010 6:42 pm
    Quoting jane82:
    If you ever get married Ate Elz. Wish you all the best.
Oh, thanks a lot my dear...Muwah!

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/3/2010 6:46 pm
    Quoting im_stacy:
    Hats off to all the eloquent commentators here. I'm an old-fashioned thinker who still believes that marriage is a Till Death Do Us Part Contract, a sacred union which provides a solid base for couples who are eventually blessed with children. Children need both male and female role models to maximize their maturity and development. Sure, some people don't have that opportunity and seem to turn out just fine. But for developmental reasons, there's no substitute for the diversity and impact that both a mother & father bring to the maturation and life education of a child.
Very well written and very ideal, my sweet friend...But, what can I say? Idealism is nowhere to be found when the harsh realities of married life are just too much to keep one's sanity...Either you break off from bondage to be free or be admitted in the mental institution..What the heart cannot take, the mind cannot absorb anymore...There's always this thing called SATURATION point..

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/3/2010 6:48 pm
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Diamongs are forever, but LOVE walks out of the door at the first sign of intolerance...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/3/2010 6:51 pm
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Hey Greg! what's with the eb? My name ELZ is all over the place, or do you prefer to be blind? ..or do we need to be formally introduced?......Re: virtual ___, that's always possible, but I believe women feel bad when men don't even remember their names...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

2/3/2010 6:53 pm
    Quoting eb1209:
    Diamongs are forever, but LOVE walks out of the door at the first sign of intolerance...
...diamonds...

Just call me ELZ




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