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Vindictive Love....  When one experiences hurt, sometimes s/he has no ability to cope with it. There is a tendency to be spiteful, to take revenge, to purposely hurt back, to be resentful. But the sad part of it is that the desire to avenge from that painful experience is to hurt the "innocent", someone who is not directly involved with whatever ill feelings one is experiencing. In short, someone's got to be punished, somehow.. Is this fair?...Who cares? Someone's got to pay! No matter how much it'll cost that person... I've heard tons of stories of women (mostly) who were wooed by men, and once they're swept off their feet in "love", the same men just "leave", with lots of alibis or without notice...Can you relate to this? I've been enveloped with the fear of experiencing the same, so much so that I created a "wall" to protect myself from this misfortune. I was pretty close to ending up with it a couple of times in different situations (or so, I thought). But it is said that the walls we build around us to protect us from being sad and hurt, are the same walls that prevent us from experiencing the joys..And I guess, that is also true.. I was advised many times NOT to be too analytical. " Feelings are not supposed to be logical. Dangerous is the wo/man who keeps rationalizing his/her emotions. " It is said that " All Is Fair In Love and War "...Let's not be vindictive.. Just call me ELZ  |
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10/21/2009 8:39 am |
never try to hurt the innocent  ...they just like a child... and don't fight for LOVE it has to be free....love is the greatest gift of all 
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The lessons learned from pain & hurt may be the hardest but they are probably the most important ones because it builds character. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to. One way to get over pain is to keep oneself busy doing right and feeling good about it knowing that it's the best thing to do, rather than being busy doing (or even thinking) wrong. When I  low my friends et al give me energy.
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10/21/2009 9:28 am |
"what goes around...comes around"  so don't worry  give ur best shot...always  if u fail and get hurt?  get even !  kidding!  seriously...pain is a vitamin  without it...u will never be stronger  so i promised myself...  i'd rather feel PAIN than... nothing at all  "kahit masakit ...kaya natin ito!!! "  
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10/21/2009 9:35 am |
Jhon (I hope I got ur name right)...I hope everyone thinks that way...really...but there are those who FEELS happy seeing others get hurt.. Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 9:40 am |
Yanie, my dear...I do know that falling in love can be "emotionally" costly (to others, it can be a pain in the pockets too ), and depending on how much we risk each time, is also the higher possibility of being happy in the end, or else, there can only be a downward trend... Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 9:41 am |
never try to hurt the innocent ...they just like a child... and don't fight for LOVE it has to be free.... Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 9:47 am |
The lessons learned from pain & hurt may be the hardest but they are probably the most important ones because it builds character. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to. One way to get over pain is to keep oneself busy doing right and feeling good about it knowing that it's the best thing to do, rather than being busy doing (or even thinking) wrong.  ...For me, being hurt doesn't mean hating the person..For what? the act of hating will deprive me of being happy. I sure will NOT give any man the satisfaction of seeing/knowing that I am hurt, hateful, and feeling down just because he had wronged me...No! On the contrary, I will even be thankful that things ended the way they did because I deserve something or someone a lot better...Besides, there is no room for hatred in my heart...It'll make me look older than my age... Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 9:52 am |
"what goes around...comes around" so don't worry give ur best shot...always if u fail and get hurt? get even ! kidding! seriously...pain is a vitamin without it...u will never be stronger so i promised myself... i'd rather feel PAIN than... nothing at all "kahit masakit ...kaya natin ito!!! " ...Nagiging sadista or masochista na nga tau eh...Sobrang pagtitiis and paghihintay on my part...Grabe! But I won't ever get even...In the end, tayo pa rin ang talo..kasi if we get so emotionally affected, we will be consumed...The end result? WRINKLES... I don't want them...Shu! Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 1:16 pm |
Jhon (I hope I got ur name right)...I hope everyone thinks that way...really...but there are those who FEELS happy seeing others get hurt.. Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 1:20 pm |
May I share with you a secret, Joyce?..Actually, there was/is (make a wild guess) this special feeling that I hold or reserve in my heart, but it is very unique in a way that I wasn't/isn't expecting anything in return...Probably that's love?..NOT that kind of love I felt strongly long time ago...But my heart is very capable of loving...truly.. Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 1:51 pm |
Uuyy uuyyy Hmmmm do I hear Elz singing Remember those walls I built Well, baby they're tumbling down And they didn't even put up a fight They didn't even make up a sound I found a way to let you in But I never really had a doubt Standing in the light of your halo I got my angel now Vindictive love  bring it on, eye 4 an eye baby Well just a word of advice to all you sistahs out there specially the ones that seems to be caught up in the vicious cycle of being swept of your feet and then at the end find yourself being dropped like a ton of bricks or drowing in sorrows. Putting up a wall temporarily may not be a bad idea while you asses where you are in life. Walls will keep things out but will also limited your horizon. And so true that feelings are not supposed to be logical, specially when it comes to considering a partner. So if you are being to analytical about a person or the type of relationship you will have then you really are not into him/her the first place. As we all know love has no logic! If loving you is wrong... I don't want to be right If being right means living without you I'd rather live wrong than right
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10/21/2009 4:25 pm |
Uuyy uuyyy Hmmmm do I hear Elz singing Remember those walls I builtWell, baby they're tumbling down And they didn't even put up a fight They didn't even make up a sound I found a way to let you in But I never really had a doubt Standing in the light of your halo I got my angel now Vindictive love bring it on, eye 4 an eye baby Well just a word of advice to all you sistahs out there specially the ones that seems to be caught up in the vicious cycle of being swept of your feet and then at the end find yourself being dropped like a ton of bricks or drowing in sorrows. Putting up a wall temporarily may not be a bad idea while you asses where you are in life. Walls will keep things out but will also limited your horizon. And so true that feelings are not supposed to be logical, specially when it comes to considering a partner. So if you are being to analytical about a person or the type of relationship you will have then you really are not into him/her the first place. As we all know love has no logic! If loving you is wrong... I don't want to be right If being right means living without you I'd rather live wrong than right  Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 4:27 pm |
Hahahahaha! ..I knew this was coming Joyce...But all I can say is HAYZ!  Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 5:15 pm |
Hey! Mr. Cali..What happened to you? We were expecting you at the SFO EB...But anyways, I believe Marivic had chatted with you re: the outcome...Thanks for your very important points of view...Take care! , I did show up .... Yes Marivic filled me in and I'm glad you all had a great time. Take care
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10/21/2009 5:43 pm |
Hey! Mr. Cali..What happened to you? We were expecting you at the SFO EB...But anyways, I believe Marivic had chatted with you re: the outcome...Thanks for your very important points of view...Take care! he could join the fun with us...love is the greatest gift of all
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10/21/2009 5:45 pm |
"what goes around...comes around" so don't worry give ur best shot...always if u fail and get hurt? get even ! kidding! seriously...pain is a vitamin without it...u will never be stronger so i promised myself... i'd rather feel PAIN than... nothing at all "kahit masakit ...kaya natin ito!!! " love is the greatest gift of all
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10/21/2009 6:10 pm |
he was there elz but too bad ROBERTO'S is close... too bad we don't wait a little more... he could join the fun with us... Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 6:11 pm |
masakit is masarap awwwwwwwwwcthhhhh Just call me ELZ
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10/21/2009 6:23 pm |
Elz, What i've learn since facing this crisis at the moment. What's the use of being vindictive. Everyone should just really chill and not ask for revenge or what have you to the other party. Because Karma does really happen. When you make someone really sad. Watch out. Life is too short to carry grudges, bitterness, and pain. Just be glad God gave us the life of breathing. And the most important thing is to be alive and spread the love around... [I God is pure love...
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Well said, Stacy.. ...For me, being hurt doesn't mean hating the person..For what? the act of hating will deprive me of being happy. I sure will NOT give any man the satisfaction of seeing/knowing that I am hurt, hateful, and feeling down just because he had wronged me...No! On the contrary, I will even be thankful that things ended the way they did because I deserve something or someone a lot better...Besides, there is no room for hatred in my heart...It'll make me look older than my age... When I low my friends et al give me energy.
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10/22/2009 4:55 am |
, I did show up .... Yes Marivic filled me in and I'm glad you all had a great time. Take care Just call me ELZ
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10/22/2009 4:58 am |
Elz, What i've learn since facing this crisis at the moment. What's the use of being vindictive. Everyone should just really chill and not ask for revenge or what have you to the other party. Because Karma does really happen. When you make someone really sad. Watch out. Life is too short to carry grudges, bitterness, and pain. Just be glad God gave us the life of breathing. And the most important thing is to be alive and spread the love around... Just call me ELZ
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10/22/2009 5:12 am |
My dear, it takes a lot for a man to admit being hurt, and my kudos to you...And I do believe that in "love" we're not supposed to be "logical", and for that reason, we tend to be "blind"...Maybe, I am one of the exceptions (in several occasions, and I cannot tell for sure that each time we fall in love, we fall for the wrong person...But, I guess, when two people fail to work things out, they tend to say "it's not meant to be" and make that as an all time high "excuse"...Am I right? or am I right? Just call me ELZ
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10/22/2009 5:18 am |
I never been vindictive, as a matter of fact, I tend to be the martyr..I always give in...Because I always believe that if someone really is into me, he will find ways and means to be with me...period!...And I thank you my sweet friend for always wishing me the best specially in the LOVE Dept.  Just call me ELZ
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10/22/2009 5:21 am |
This is the most realistic way of putting things in perspective, Popi, and thank you for all that honesty...But of course, it happens, and it happens a whole lot...But I am with you, that even if the initial reaction is to get even, eventually, the positive realization in the end is the best outcome....Hep!hep! hurray! thanks for this very realistic comment.. Just call me ELZ
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