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 When one experiences hurt, sometimes s/he has no ability to cope with it. There is a tendency to be spiteful, to take revenge, to purposely hurt back, to be resentful. But the sad part of it is that the desire to avenge from that painful experience is to hurt the "innocent", someone who is not directly involved with whatever ill feelings one is experiencing. In short, someone's got to be punished, somehow.. Is this fair?...Who cares? Someone's got to pay! No matter how much it'll cost that person... I've heard tons of stories of women (mostly) who were wooed by men, and once they're swept off their feet in "love", the same men just "leave", with lots of alibis or without notice...Can you relate to this? I've been enveloped with the fear of experiencing the same, so much so that I created a "wall" to protect myself from this misfortune. I was pretty close to ending up with it a couple of times in different situations (or so, I thought). But it is said that the walls we build around us to protect us from being sad and hurt, are the same walls that prevent us from experiencing the joys..And I guess, that is also true.. I was advised many times NOT to be too analytical. " Feelings are not supposed to be logical. Dangerous is the wo/man who keeps rationalizing his/her emotions. " It is said that " All Is Fair In Love and War "...Let's not be vindictive..    
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10/21/2009 7:03 am |
always be fair enuf,,,take no revenge or someday what youve thrown at will get back at you,,love by all means,, "moving minds tru moving world"
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10/21/2009 7:43 am |
I think it's only natural to be afraid when you've been hurt before. Just try and remember that just because something happened before doesn't necessarily mean it WILL happen again. It's Ok to be alert,aware,and somewhat guarded,but still take that risk of finding true happiness...  Gud gurlz R bad gurlz who dnt get caught...  Yanie24w
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10/21/2009 8:39 am |
never try to hurt the innocent  ...they just like a child... and don't fight for LOVE it has to be free....
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10/21/2009 8:41 am |
The lessons learned from pain & hurt may be the hardest but they are probably the most important ones because it builds character. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to. One way to get over pain is to keep oneself busy doing right and feeling good about it knowing that it's the best thing to do, rather than being busy doing (or even thinking) wrong. When I low my friends et al give me energy.
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10/21/2009 9:28 am |
"what goes around...comes around"  so don't worry  give ur best shot...always  if u fail and get hurt?  get even !  kidding!  seriously...pain is a vitamin  without it...u will never be stronger  so i promised myself...  i'd rather feel PAIN than... nothing at all  "kahit masakit ...kaya natin ito!!! "  i'm like a bird!
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 10/21/2009 9:35 am |
always be fair enuf,,,take no revenge or someday what youve thrown at will get back at you,,love by all means,, 
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10/21/2009 9:40 am |
I think it's only natural to be afraid when you've been hurt before. Just try and remember that just because something happened before doesn't necessarily mean it WILL happen again. It's Ok to be alert,aware,and somewhat guarded,but still take that risk of finding true happiness... ), and depending on how much we risk each time, is also the higher possibility of being happy in the end, or else, there can only be a downward trend...
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10/21/2009 9:41 am |
never try to hurt the innocent ...they just like a child... and don't fight for LOVE it has to be free....
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10/21/2009 9:47 am |
The lessons learned from pain & hurt may be the hardest but they are probably the most important ones because it builds character. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to. One way to get over pain is to keep oneself busy doing right and feeling good about it knowing that it's the best thing to do, rather than being busy doing (or even thinking) wrong.  ...For me, being hurt doesn't mean hating the person..For what? the act of hating will deprive me of being happy. I sure will NOT give any man the satisfaction of seeing/knowing that I am hurt, hateful, and feeling down just because he had wronged me...No! On the contrary, I will even be thankful that things ended the way they did because I deserve something or someone a lot better...Besides, there is no room for hatred in my heart...It'll make me look older than my age...
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10/21/2009 9:52 am |
"what goes around...comes around" so don't worry give ur best shot...always if u fail and get hurt? get even ! kidding! seriously...pain is a vitamin without it...u will never be stronger so i promised myself... i'd rather feel PAIN than... nothing at all "kahit masakit ...kaya natin ito!!! " ...Nagiging sadista or masochista na nga tau eh...Sobrang pagtitiis and paghihintay on my part...Grabe! But I won't ever get even...In the end, tayo pa rin ang talo..kasi if we get so emotionally affected, we will be consumed...The end result? WRINKLES... I don't want them...Shu!
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10/21/2009 12:39 pm |
another beautiful sharing of thought from you Elz.. true love never ever can be vindictive, it shouldn't be.. if it is/was, then i think something went wrong somewhere.. Personally, I would still want to wish happiness to whoever became close to my heart, even if how we parted ways wasn't nice. To finally learn to let go, without bitterness in one's heart, is the best step to take.. its ok to guard your heart Elz, but i hope not too much that you wouldn't want to take a chance in loving again.. wishing you will find that elusive love...soon.      
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10/21/2009 1:16 pm |
Jhon (I hope I got ur name right)...I hope everyone thinks that way...really...but there are those who FEELS happy seeing others get hurt..
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10/21/2009 1:20 pm |
another beautiful sharing of thought from you Elz.. true love never ever can be vindictive, it shouldn't be.. if it is/was, then i think something went wrong somewhere.. Personally, I would still want to wish happiness to whoever became close to my heart, even if how we parted ways wasn't nice. To finally learn to let go, without bitterness in one's heart, is the best step to take.. its ok to guard your heart Elz, but i hope not too much that you wouldn't want to take a chance in loving again.. wishing you will find that elusive love...soon. Probably that's love?..NOT that kind of love I felt strongly long time ago...But my heart is very capable of loving...truly..
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10/21/2009 1:51 pm |
Uuyy uuyyy Hmmmm do I hear Elz singing Remember those walls I built Well, baby they're tumbling down And they didn't even put up a fight They didn't even make up a sound I found a way to let you in But I never really had a doubt Standing in the light of your halo I got my angel now Vindictive love  bring it on, eye 4 an eye baby Well just a word of advice to all you sistahs out there specially the ones that seems to be caught up in the vicious cycle of being swept of your feet and then at the end find yourself being dropped like a ton of bricks or drowing in sorrows. Putting up a wall temporarily may not be a bad idea while you asses where you are in life. Walls will keep things out but will also limited your horizon. And so true that feelings are not supposed to be logical, specially when it comes to considering a partner. So if you are being to analytical about a person or the type of relationship you will have then you really are not into him/her the first place. As we all know love has no logic! If loving you is wrong... I don't want to be right If being right means living without you I'd rather live wrong than right
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10/21/2009 2:29 pm |
May I share with you a secret, Joyce?..Actually, there was/is (make a wild guess) this special feeling that I hold or reserve in my heart, but it is very unique in a way that I wasn't/isn't expecting anything in return... Probably that's love?..NOT that kind of love I felt strongly long time ago...But my heart is very capable of loving...truly.. i think I know what you mean, or WHO... and I think thats ok to have... who knows.....you and that person might be surprised one time... God works in wonderful, mysterious ways, that much i have learned...
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10/21/2009 4:25 pm |
Uuyy uuyyy Hmmmm do I hear Elz singing Remember those walls I builtWell, baby they're tumbling down And they didn't even put up a fight They didn't even make up a sound I found a way to let you in But I never really had a doubt Standing in the light of your halo I got my angel now Vindictive love bring it on, eye 4 an eye baby Well just a word of advice to all you sistahs out there specially the ones that seems to be caught up in the vicious cycle of being swept of your feet and then at the end find yourself being dropped like a ton of bricks or drowing in sorrows. Putting up a wall temporarily may not be a bad idea while you asses where you are in life. Walls will keep things out but will also limited your horizon. And so true that feelings are not supposed to be logical, specially when it comes to considering a partner. So if you are being to analytical about a person or the type of relationship you will have then you really are not into him/her the first place. As we all know love has no logic! If loving you is wrong... I don't want to be right If being right means living without you I'd rather live wrong than right 
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10/21/2009 4:27 pm |
May i share with you a feeling too Elz... i think I know what you mean, or WHO... and I think thats ok to have... who knows.....you and that person might be surprised one time... God works in wonderful, mysterious ways, that much i have learned... ..I knew this was coming Joyce...But all I can say is HAYZ! 
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10/21/2009 5:15 pm |
Hey! Mr. Cali..What happened to you? We were expecting you at the SFO EB...But anyways, I believe Marivic had chatted with you re: the outcome...Thanks for your very important points of view...Take care! , I did show up .... Yes Marivic filled me in and I'm glad you all had a great time. Take care
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10/21/2009 5:43 pm |
Hey! Mr. Cali..What happened to you? We were expecting you at the SFO EB...But anyways, I believe Marivic had chatted with you re: the outcome...Thanks for your very important points of view...Take care! he could join the fun with us...
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10/21/2009 5:45 pm |
"what goes around...comes around" so don't worry give ur best shot...always if u fail and get hurt? get even ! kidding! seriously...pain is a vitamin without it...u will never be stronger so i promised myself... i'd rather feel PAIN than... nothing at all "kahit masakit ...kaya natin ito!!! "
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10/21/2009 6:10 pm |
he was there elz but too bad ROBERTO'S is close... too bad we don't wait a little more... he could join the fun with us...
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10/21/2009 6:11 pm |
masakit is masarap awwwwwwwwwcthhhhh
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10/21/2009 6:23 pm |
Elz, What i've learn since facing this crisis at the moment. What's the use of being vindictive. Everyone should just really chill and not ask for revenge or what have you to the other party. Because Karma does really happen. When you make someone really sad. Watch out. Life is too short to carry grudges, bitterness, and pain. Just be glad God gave us the life of breathing. And the most important thing is to be alive and spread the love around... [I God is pure love...
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10/21/2009 6:36 pm |
Jhon (I hope I got ur name right)...I hope everyone thinks that way...really...but there are those who FEELS happy seeing others get hurt.. "moving minds tru moving world"
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10/21/2009 6:45 pm |
It's okay to be vigilance of your heart Elz! But it's not okay to get revenge on others. Just let it go, and forget about it. Learn from past mistakes and believe in  will come around again and that you will find a person who will treat you the way you want to be treated! I wish you    and happiness as always my dear friend.  always and we labs yah. .  & Hope you  . Live Life to the Fullest! ***Me and YOU***
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10/21/2009 6:46 pm |
when we get hurt, our first impulse is to lash back... because it gives us a brief sense of comfort - knowing that somehow, we were able to get back at the person who hurt us. of course, it's ideal to be generous about it and charge the whole thing to experience, but it's really difficult to think clearly when you're in pain... we usually just realize it's wrong after we've recovered from the hurt and are starting to move on
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10/21/2009 6:47 pm |
Jeanny, hindi lahat ng masakit ay masarap.. . Live Life to the Fullest! ***Me and YOU***
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10/21/2009 7:02 pm |
Hahahahaha! ..I knew this was coming Joyce...But all I can say is HAYZ!
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10/22/2009 3:35 am |
Well said, Stacy.. ...For me, being hurt doesn't mean hating the person..For what? the act of hating will deprive me of being happy. I sure will NOT give any man the satisfaction of seeing/knowing that I am hurt, hateful, and feeling down just because he had wronged me...No! On the contrary, I will even be thankful that things ended the way they did because I deserve something or someone a lot better...Besides, there is no room for hatred in my heart...It'll make me look older than my age... When I low my friends et al give me energy.
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10/22/2009 4:55 am |
, I did show up .... Yes Marivic filled me in and I'm glad you all had a great time. Take care
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10/22/2009 4:58 am |
Elz, What i've learn since facing this crisis at the moment. What's the use of being vindictive. Everyone should just really chill and not ask for revenge or what have you to the other party. Because Karma does really happen. When you make someone really sad. Watch out. Life is too short to carry grudges, bitterness, and pain. Just be glad God gave us the life of breathing. And the most important thing is to be alive and spread the love around...
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10/22/2009 5:12 am |
sis,,well ive been hurt a couple of times and i am not ashamed to admit it,,but life should go on,,in the end naman theres this word KARMA,,hehehehe
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10/22/2009 5:18 am |
It's okay to be vigilance of your heart Elz! But it's not okay to get revenge on others. Just let it go, and forget about it. Learn from past mistakes and believe in will come around again and that you will find a person who will treat you the way you want to be treated! I wish you and happiness as always my dear friend. always and we labs yah. . & Hope you . 
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10/22/2009 5:21 am |
when we get hurt, our first impulse is to lash back... because it gives us a brief sense of comfort - knowing that somehow, we were able to get back at the person who hurt us. of course, it's ideal to be generous about it and charge the whole thing to experience, but it's really difficult to think clearly when you're in pain... we usually just realize it's wrong after we've recovered from the hurt and are starting to move on
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10/22/2009 5:23 am |
never say... never, Elz
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10/22/2009 5:25 am |
Choose Not to Stay in Pain. They say this is “self-empowerment.” You can either be bitter about the pains and feel very powerless. Or you can do something and feel powerful enough to handle them. It’s a choice to live with or without pain.
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10/22/2009 7:03 pm |
Masakit na masarap .
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10/22/2009 7:06 pm |
And my friend, you know, I always CHOOSE to be HAPPY...That is the fact...and I've been in a far worse situation 10 years ago...I survived that turmoil in my life...Everything else after that is...PEANUTS...
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10/22/2009 7:29 pm |
10 years naku parang virgin ulit yan hihihi...masakit talaga yan
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10/23/2009 12:16 am |
My dear, it takes a lot for a man to admit being hurt, and my kudos to you...And I do believe that in "love" we're not supposed to be "logical", and for that reason, we tend to be "blind"...Maybe, I am one of the exceptions (in several occasions, and I cannot tell for sure that each time we fall in love, we fall for the wrong person...But, I guess, when two people fail to work things out, they tend to say "it's not meant to be" and make that as an all time high "excuse"...Am I right? or am I right? "moving minds tru moving world"
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10/23/2009 2:42 am |
hmm,,theres no such things as not meant to be,choices were made,in love there pain,,theres no perfect relationship,we just have to make it close to being perfect thou,,
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10/23/2009 6:24 am |
I never been vindictive, as a matter of fact, I tend to be the martyr..I always give in...Because I always believe that if someone really is into me, he will find ways and means to be with me...period!...And I thank you my sweet friend for always wishing me the best specially in the LOVE Dept. Live Life to the Fullest! ***Me and YOU***
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10/23/2009 8:35 am |
Jeanny, did you receive the pics I sent you? great pix for every one!
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10/23/2009 7:25 pm |
I think I am the same way Elz. You are welcome my dear, and I know it's only a matter of time until you are with someone who will always be there for you! Take care always!
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10/23/2009 7:26 pm |
yes, thank you so much great pix for every one!
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10/24/2009 7:37 am |
We have the same principle on this one...I wonder if you are a LEO or virgo..Let me see... "moving minds tru moving world"
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10/24/2009 6:53 pm |
cancer hehehe,,
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10/25/2009 3:56 am |
And my friend, you know, I always CHOOSE to be HAPPY...That is the fact...and I've been in a far worse situation 10 years ago...I survived that turmoil in my life...Everything else after that is...PEANUTS... When I low my friends et al give me energy.
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10/25/2009 10:12 am |
Thanks a whole lot my friend..Please say hi to Eldon and the Spice Girls in JAX, FL... Live Life to the Fullest! ***Me and YOU***
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10/25/2009 6:02 pm |
Ngek! toxic ka pala! "moving minds tru moving world"
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10/25/2009 6:49 pm |
Continue to be an inspiration to others, I believe that's one of the many reasons you are here.
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10/25/2009 6:51 pm |
No problem. Okee dokeee I will relay your message to Eldon when I see him again. I Talked with the spice girls and asked them if they would like to go to Las Vegas next year, so lets see. It's Gina's Birthday on May next year and she is planning to celebrate her b-day on a cruise and told her that we could go to Las Vegas instead. And she said okay. Lets see what happens, so I will cross my fingers... The more the merrier. You know me I like a big group. So you better meet us there Elz k'. Do you have a specific date you will be there for planning purposes?
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10/25/2009 6:52 pm |
d naman toxic,,wala naman ako sa ward eh 
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10/25/2009 8:32 pm |
Eh di, ibulong mo na lang sa akin kung NASAAN ka.. "moving minds tru moving world"
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10/26/2009 3:45 am |
just here,,close,,sa garden ,,,,hehehehe,,
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10/27/2009 10:01 pm |
You guys, plan ahead of time, and I will organize ours, to coincide with yours..SOLVED! Live Life to the Fullest! ***Me and YOU***
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10/28/2009 10:42 pm |
K' will do that then..... Hope it will proceed as planned!...
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