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The Rollercoaster Relationship: When to Stay, and When to Go?  Every moment of a “relationship roller coaster” ride is filled with a new rush. As we do with the rollercoaster, so do we with relationships in that we are in position to take a risk. Granted it, it might be something you like and want to continue to do or not, and once you have had enough you want off or out. We trust the rollercoaster ride to keep us safe, secure, and not hurt us. In spite of all the twists and turns when the rides even back out, we are still intact. Sometimes in life we have fastened out seat belts for a relationship rollercoaster ride that is meant to last forever and it goes wrong. As exciting as it was on the way up, the trip down takes on its own personality. Once the descent starts, it often times feels like it will never end. When we are able to catch our breath we think, “What was I thinking getting on this ride?” Just call me ELZ  |
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9/9/2009 1:14 pm |
Now throughout the ride, between the twists and turns, we reconsider staying in the relationship. The ride operator gives us just those couple of seconds that is takes to rebuild the confidence to take that next hill. In a relationship gone bad, we continue to experience the disappointment of the downward spiral the relationship has taken. At what point do you get off? At what point do you decide that you don’t have to go through this? When do you notice that the people around you are having fun and you are not? What has happened in our lives that allow us to settle in relationships? Just call me ELZ
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9/9/2009 1:19 pm |
1.When you feel your emotional needs are never being met 2.The relationship becomes physically or emotionally abusive 3.The “warm fuzzy” feelings you had are gone 4.You find your self disconnected from friends and family 5.You feel like an empty shell of your former self and have lost all of yourself esteem 6.You notice you have compromised your beliefs, ambitions, and core values. Just call me ELZ
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9/9/2009 1:42 pm |
Ahhhhh! I'm too old for the Rollercoaster relationships..Why go for one, when I can have a warm, nurturing, sincere, faithful and most of all, EVERLASTING LOVE? Just call me ELZ
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9/9/2009 4:57 pm |
Coming from a man's standpoint, I agree...Who wants to "hurt" repeatedly?..thanks for gracing my blogs... Just call me ELZ
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9/9/2009 7:08 pm |
Jane, thank you so much for the detailed points of view...I appreciate the whole time you spend to empathize and to give your opinion on this matter. I have been very patient, maybe not the whole time, but I still believe that in any relationship, there should be a 50-50% efforts from both sides to make it work...Like what I've stated in my previous blog prior to this, WE SHOULD MEET HALFWAY...The problem is, there are quite a few of I DON'T WANNA be this and DON'T WANNA be that, I CAN'T BE this, and I CAN'T BE that, kinda. A lot of times, in my honest opinion, if one is sincere enough what he FEELS and THINKS, he doesn't have to talk about it...JUST DO IT!..That's all...I am not a big fan of blabbers. I might as well endorse NIKE's slogan: JUST DO IT! Just call me ELZ
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9/9/2009 9:48 pm |
sure...when ur dizzy and puking already...u have to get off the rollercoaster (relationship)  but at this age??? i just wanna ride the ... carousels!  slow...relaxing...nice and easy   
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9/9/2009 10:08 pm |
Elsa, Wow, was in a roller coaster ride all throughout the marriage. And then with you know who. I just want a romantic relationship that neither one hurts one another. That's not so hard to ask for di ba. Having honor and respect with each other. Most of all love.  [I God is pure love...
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9/10/2009 2:25 am |
Bhabes, just like a lawyer, I've been debating since day one...and it's not that I did not give love another chance...I sincerely did.. Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 2:27 am |
sure...when ur dizzy and puking already...u have to get off the rollercoaster (relationship) but at this age??? i just wanna ride the ... carousels! slow...relaxing...nice and easy  ..what do you say, sistah?Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 2:29 am |
YOu are right, my dear...When only one person keeps pulling up what's down, it's not good, while the other keeps pulling down just what is already up high.. Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 2:32 am |
Elsa, Wow, was in a roller coaster ride all throughout the marriage. And then with you know who. I just want a romantic relationship that neither one hurts one another. That's not so hard to ask for di ba. Having honor and respect with each other. Most of all love. Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 2:33 am |
But of course, Smiley...We can doing the MERRY-GO-ROUND together you know...Maybe we should meet one day, and have a blast... ..what do you say, sistah?Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 2:35 am |
Oh, dear...LIFE does go on...and I always smile...It's still good to be alone...at least, at this point.. Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 1:12 pm |
Very well put Ate Roxy. At some point we have the choice to get on the ride.    within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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9/10/2009 6:36 pm |
I have had only two major romantic relationships in my life, and true, they weren't perfect, and there were occasional rollercoater rides, but, I'm saying, if it's too much of a rollercoaster, it is NOT healthy anymore...JUST NOT HEALTHY ANYMORE... Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 6:40 pm |
Oh, you mean, by BLUE MAGIC, Bestest Friend... Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 6:41 pm |
Very well put Ate Roxy. At some point we have the choice to get on the ride. Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 6:43 pm |
Hahahahahah!  ..You have NOT really given up on us, Jane, HAVE YOU? Just call me ELZ
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9/10/2009 6:46 pm |
HAHAHAHA! ..Dave, it's okay, you have a good exposure here, you know......Enjoy your shopping at WAL-MART.. Just call me ELZ
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9/12/2009 5:57 pm |
How's your ride, so far, Janey? ehehehe provocative question Ate. Hmm the answer is high, bumpy, lo, high and I don't want to get off the ride. The only reason why I'd have to get off or fall off is if the ride itself is broken. within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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9/12/2009 6:18 pm |
Only back now tonight. ehehehe provocative question Ate. Hmm the answer is high, bumpy, lo, high and I don't want to get off the ride. The only reason why I'd have to get off or fall off is if the ride itself is broken.  Just call me ELZ
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AMS, I'm done with roller coasters, a tricycle ride suits me better, it's affordable, dependable and something that I can take or leave if and when I want to. When I  low my friends et al give me energy.
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9/24/2009 2:59 pm |
AMS, I'm done with roller coasters, a tricycle ride suits me better, it's affordable, dependable and something that I can take or leave if and when I want to. Just call me ELZ
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