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The Homecoming of The Prodigal ....  He left home April 14, 2008 while I was still recuperating from my left shoulder surgery, stating he wanted to live an independent life...What a timing! But, I just knew he had to taste how to live by himself, and be responsible for his own life. As an RN, himself, he spent his money the way he wanted to squander it. As far as I am concerned, I have done my level best to nurture, to clothe, to educate, support and pamper him the best way I could as his mother. Even though I am not a perfect parent, I believe I have done everything to provide him a comfortable life. But of course, life is but a cycle, and our young will have to experience how it is to be out there in the jungle, by themselves...Indeed, the survival of the fittest.. After more than 16 months of living independently, sonny asked me if he can come back home, so that he'll be able to save up $$$ by splitting "some" of the utility bills with me and not to shoulder them all. He admitted to NOT having saved money all this time, due to his enormous expenditures. He plans on saving cash but with another objective this time: HE PLANS ON GOING BACK HOME TO THE PHILIPPINES FOR GOOD come early 2010....What can I tell you? While almost everyone dreams of coming to the USA, sonny has it the other way around...But what can I do? It's his life....and all I can say is that he will always be my "BABY" forever...I rest my case.. Just call me ELZ  |
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8/14/2009 5:30 pm |
I am happy being single, Antonio...It's actually better than really having someone NOT FIT for me...I hope you enjoy your retirement in the Philippines... Just call me ELZ
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8/14/2009 11:00 pm |
Roxy, I had a serious talk with him, and I have mentioned all or more than you stated here, but right now, he had made up his mind. Unless he experienced the hardship, I think he will not realize what he's into it. Besides, he probably thinks "Mommy will always be around in case I need something>", and that defeats the purpose of him being independent. And next time, I guess, the iron belt will have to be imposed on him. He wants to apply for dual citizenship now.  Just call me ELZ
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8/15/2009 5:30 am |
Elsa, Our kids have their own life. And we cannot live it for them. They really have to make their own decision. Good or bad and have to answer the consequence. All the "what ifs" loom in the corner. I was thinking of dual citizenship too. But, for me rather work here and save the money so it can be 5x more when he goes to PI. In my case so hard to save.... His so cute in that pic. He'll do fine. God's blessings!!!  [I God is pure love...
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8/15/2009 8:00 am |
Elsa, Our kids have their own life. And we cannot live it for them. They really have to make their own decision. Good or bad and have to answer the consequence. All the "what ifs" loom in the corner. I was thinking of dual citizenship too. But, for me rather work here and save the money so it can be 5x more when he goes to PI. In my case so hard to save.... His so cute in that pic. He'll do fine. God's blessings!!!  Just call me ELZ
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8/15/2009 8:05 am |
Thank you for your words of wisdom, Antonio. You cannot be wrong on this one, and I agree with you. While at times, it is unavoidable for someone like me who has this ONLY ONE child, to be overprotective of him and even though he is already of legal age, I still cannot help but worry for him. He has to give life it's best shot, and if anything, I can just give him moral support . Thanks for the well-wishes Antonio. I know, you feel the same way for your kids. Just call me ELZ
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he is not in such a bad spot elz bcoz as a US citizen, he can always change his mind & come back to the US.. the only thing that could spell trouble is if he falls in love with the wrong person who might have other interests other than loving him but then as your friends here say, 'it's his life & his right to pursue what makes him happy'.. i'll just wish him luck in all his undertakings. TC
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... or his saying he wants to save by coming home & splitting expenses with you, is really an excuse to come home to be with you bcoz in fact he is your only child & you are alone.
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8/15/2009 10:59 am |
he is not in such a bad spot elz bcoz as a US citizen, he can always change his mind & come back to the US.. the only thing that could spell trouble is if he falls in love with the wrong person who might have other interests other than loving him but then as your friends here say, 'it's his life & his right to pursue what makes him happy'.. i'll just wish him luck in all his undertakings. TC Just call me ELZ
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8/15/2009 11:01 am |
... or his saying he wants to save by coming home & splitting expenses with you, is really an excuse to come home to be with you bcoz in fact he is your only child & you are alone. Just call me ELZ
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8/15/2009 12:03 pm |
wow, u are complicated, u have opened up ur life and many of yur lifes issues and problems to us here in fff, i know its sort of a self healing thing to be able to vent here in fff, and thats a good thing for u, it also reassures many that all our problems are very similair and to those that would never open them up here , i know they feel good seeing u deal with some of thier similiar problems...==just want to thank u for that, u may never know how many you've helped, since many probally never even commented, as u see, blogs always have many more reads then comments... keep up the god work to comment on this specific one, ur boy reminds me of my grandson, so handsome with the same angel innocent eyes. ur feeling and wanting to always look out and over him is and always will be the way i feel about my two (now grown) daugheters and now about my first grandson...im sure im this way because i always knew my parents always felt this way about me ..yes of couse i rebelled a little back at them because of it....but even then they never stopped or changed thier strong desire to love ,care and yes direct me based on what they thought was best for me.."id say they did a pretty good job" thanks for never getting discouraged mom and dad.... Dont u EVER either elZ....  James
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8/15/2009 12:39 pm |
wow, u are complicated, u have opened up ur life and many of yur lifes issues and problems to us here in fff, i know its sort of a self healing thing to be able to vent here in fff, and thats a good thing for u, it also reassures many that all our problems are very similair and to those that would never open them up here , i know they feel good seeing u deal with some of thier similiar problems...==just want to thank u for that, u may never know how many you've helped, since many probally never even commented, as u see, blogs always have many more reads then comments... keep up the god work to comment on this specific one, ur boy reminds me of my grandson, so handsome with the same angel innocent eyes. ur feeling and wanting to always look out and over him is and always will be the way i feel about my two (now grown) daugheters and now about my first grandson...im sure im this way because i always knew my parents always felt this way about me ..yes of couse i rebelled a little back at them because of it....but even then they never stopped or changed thier strong desire to love ,care and yes direct me based on what they thought was best for me.."id say they did a pretty good job" thanks for never getting discouraged mom and dad.... Dont u EVER either elZ.... James Just call me ELZ
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8/15/2009 4:11 pm |
Antonio, I am not a Psychologist, even though it is part of Nursing curriculum, but I can tell that you are a doting father, yourself, and I'm sure, you've given your best to your children as well..You should be proud with that, and no one shoud accuse you of being conceited in that respect... Just call me ELZ
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8/15/2009 4:13 pm |
Bestest friend, thank you for being supportive all these years. You've met my son in person and we've met with your family as well...I commend you also for rearing your children the very best way you could, being the father and mother of them all...Now, it's time to have a partner to help you take care of them and to take care of you as well... Just call me ELZ
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8/15/2009 10:39 pm |
children are just borrowed from God...were gifted to us...to nurture and cherish and love we have to realize that...when they are all ready to fly on their own... stand on their feet...explore life ...we have to let go of them... and just stay here JUST backups... supporters in all aspect ... watch them dare life's struggles  parenting is never ending story...let ur son do what he needs to do...wish him luck...give ur blessing...and while he's doing that...maghanap kang fafa   and ayusin mo paghahanap ha? wag kukuha ng mga DOM  
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8/16/2009 7:07 am |
Joyce, I undertand what you mean. But you try to balance things out by taking care of yourself as well, and you've wonderfully done that. You have collected your gifts, and just wait for the next ones to come. I wish the same for your unico hijo too. Time will come for them to realize a lot of things they take for granted. God bless them and us, mom's as always...Thank you!  Just call me ELZ
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Life for people with nothing to start with is difficult anywhere. But Mark's decision is a good move because he is starting here with enough savings not just to get by but to have a good life. That's how it is here AMS. Life here is comfortable and much easier when you start with a solid base. With Mark's personality he could easily land a teaching job which pays Php350-450/hour. That's the CI's rate for clinical instructors. Besides he can always return to the USofA should he miss his life there. When I  low my friends et al give me energy.
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8/24/2009 7:32 pm |
Life for people with nothing to start with is difficult anywhere. But Mark's decision is a good move because he is starting here with enough savings not just to get by but to have a good life. That's how it is here AMS. Life here is comfortable and much easier when you start with a solid base. With Mark's personality he could easily land a teaching job which pays Php350-450/hour. That's the CI's rate for clinical instructors. Besides he can always return to the USofA should he miss his life there. ..I know, but still knowing his lifestyle...I am just scared how he is going to get by..Thank you!Just call me ELZ
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8/24/2009 7:40 pm |
Huh? why ngayon lang ito lumabas? sorry about the delay in response, Tinks, but you do make sense...I do believe that i've done my level best to give my only child a comfortable and stable life...You have a long way to go, my dear..Goodluck on your parenthood.. Just call me ELZ
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8/24/2009 7:42 pm |
children are just borrowed from God...were gifted to us...to nurture and cherish and love we have to realize that...when they are all ready to fly on their own... stand on their feet...explore life ...we have to let go of them... and just stay here JUST backups... supporters in all aspect ... watch them dare life's struggles parenting is never ending story...let ur son do what he needs to do...wish him luck...give ur blessing...and while he's doing that...maghanap kang fafa and ayusin mo paghahanap ha? wag kukuha ng mga DOM  Just call me ELZ
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